What if for just one day ( to start with!) we each chose to focus on PEACE. Just imagine it! The whole globe fuelling their minds, viewing their world and flavouring their choices with PEACE! After all, its pretty common knowledge nowadays that we get more of what we most focus on.
SO what is it you most focus on?
I have had a practice and one which I share with my clients which is to spend some time just after waking and before I get out of bed, focus on being present to what is occurring in my body.
‘Being present to’ doesn’t mean judge or analyse what is going on in your body- but simply becoming aware, observing what is going on with neutral perspective. Thats why its a practice, you need to practice!! It’s an old habit to allow our head to look for what’s wrong, what’s not going well, what needs fixing.
But gradually, with growing patience and discipline you can reach that neutral view and then your more conscious choice can be made. Choose to focus on something you love, something that brings you a sense of peace, joy, connectedness, aliveness, contentedness… and get reeeaaaaallllyy good at being able to shift your attention back to these no matter what your head distracting you with.
DW x
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We all know when we have it, its a feeling in our body but then the monkey mind, the rational logic comes in and has to evaluate and weigh up risk before we take action.
How many times have you seen a beautiful piece of clothing or a new car or a house and you have instantly felt a YES! In that very moment, you are living that reality and enjoying that thing that has your attention. Your powerful imagination can see yourself in that scene as clear as day and you feel expanded and alive as if it is already yours.
But then almost instantly for most, your thoughts or belief of whether you are able to have that experience come in. Your head evaluates and judges based upon current reality and circumstances if you are worthy or capable of attaining that. It effectively comes right on in and squeezes all of that inspired and expanded energy(which is who you are!) back into the limitations of your little body. It uses past knowledge and compares,evaluates and critiques based upon what you already know as to whether this new experience you have asked for is possible.
Truth is, of course it is possible! You are infinite energy which moves in through and around everything and everyone! But it all comes down to the degree that you give your power to those thoughts and emotions which flood your body. Granted, It’s a huge challenge not to and some things are much more easy to reclaim your attention away from than others but nonetheless, this is what must occur in order to KNOW yourself as a truly unlimited being in a human form.
When working with my clients and from my own journey, this is one of the most challenging things for us. We are scared of expressing ourselves, more especially because of the emotions that we fear will come with that. The actuality of saying the words is often the hardest initial hurdle but in hindsight, the easiest part. The true challenge to our humanness (ego) is in experiencing the emotions we think will happen after speaking up. Its the perception of vulnerability, failure,being wrong, shame, guilt, anxiety, rejection and finally abandonment. Also what we then think we will need to do or act like to follow through after speaking up. This is why you would have heard me speaking about the importance of emotional resilience. Again note- RESILIENCE not RESISTANCE. And your willingness to keep building your resilience time and time again through experience, expression and feeling.
My goodness we are all such drama queens when we are in our heads aren’t we! lol
But if you are tired of continuing to ignore your feelings of Yes! or are in some way convinced that you don’t know what your own yes! is, then put up your hand, I am happy to support you to get clarity and to build your awareness of your own inherent truth within- but even more importantly guide you in taking action on that truth. Being spiritually lazy, or in other words, having awareness but then not taking action from that new awareness is such a bullshit place to be in, believe me, I’ve learned that one and it only leads to cynicism and doubt!
I look forward to hearing from you.
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I became aware of a heaviness within – a slowing up – upon hearing the news that came from our government yesterday that blocked the free vote on marriage equality. I recognized it as the feeling I get whenever I become conscious of a choice made from fear and fuelled with the dynamics of power and control and the resulting feeling of powerlessness.
Ultimately I am aware also that this too must be seen as an opportunity to remind myself, those around me and whom I work with, that there is a bigger picture playing itself out and not to get lost in the emotions of disappointment and anger towards Tony Abbott and his allies. We are part of a flawed system and as such it makes no sense to give it so much energy. What appears to be happening is always what happens when ego goes into battle with ego- it’s why wars happen and why so many of the choices that our current government are making, seem crazy and downright dangerous. Ego always wants to be right and so there’s never a winner.
It’s a tough call to make here, but essential if we are to rise in our consciousness and not fall prey to adding to this war. At times like this we must dig deep and do the work that’s required to find the space of love within. To realize that to hate and blame and judge Tony Abbott will only increase the stalemate situations we find ourselves in. To see beyond the external and personal wrapping he comes in and observe instead the role he is playing for us all. To stop looking for him and his supporters to change and to stop acting from fear and instead ruthlessly do that in each of our own lives and in our own ways. Tony Abbott (and others in our recent history such as George Bush, Francisco Franco and Benito Mussolini) and the way he is governing is a reflection of what we collectively are UNconsciously choosing.
If we were to each stop and ask ourselves some of the harder questions from a place of personal responsibility;
– For what purpose am I being served by having a leader in power who is behaving this way ?…Is it because I don’t believe I have the power myself and therefore must “outsource” it to others?
-How is it I am contributing to what is happening, even if I didn’t personally vote for the coalition government?…am I not speaking up about what is true for me?
and most importantly, if I can take my attention away from playing the blame game with the government, where can I focus my attention that will shift this current experience?
There is another theme I notice with these people in power, the time where they appear to be at their most powerful is simultaneously the time where they are most disapproved of publicly. In their outrageous display of censorship and misuse of power, unwittingly the lose their true power by ignoring the opportunity to dialogue, conciliate and negotiate and truly represent the collective. What is that all about?
Perhaps the emotions that are stirred up by people who push our buttons in this way are there as fuel. Fuel to step up and out of complacency. By them acting exactly the way they do, in fact creates an opening, a calling if you like for the new leader of love to stand out. In fact we can see it already in some of the reportage today, messages of love and support from people who are also in positions of power and influence politically. Taking action from love is imperative but also it’s critical to remember that everything which is occurring and has occurred up until now is contributing to the impending tipping point in our global political structure….and THAT’S the exciting part!
The passage from fear to love can feel incredibly arduous and long and often filled with seeming potholes and disappointments but along that pathway we expand and learn so much about ourselves and each other. But getting caught up in the story and allowing it to decide how you feel is not a road to peace of mind. When the stuff going on around you is crazy and desperately trying to rob you of your happiness, its a time to go to work! Relentless practice to focus your attention and bring yourself back into the here and now of your life, being present to what is in the moment and following the inspiration there because it’s that inspiration that gets lost when the thoughts get loud. It’s up to you to remember to choose how you are feeling and find that unshakeable place amongst the noise.
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People spend a lot of energy, time and money trying to work out WHY they feel the way they feel- they try to understand their resistance, their thinking, their patterns and self-sabotage.
When it comes down to it, for anyone who has been working on themselves in the world of personal development for a while, they will know that it always comes back to the same thing- the good old ‘not good enough’ stuff.
So its your choice, you can spend all your time, energy , money and keep experiencing the same old emotions going through your body each time you discover another subtle nuance, another version of the story in your head.
But Why? Why would you continue to do that if it always leads to the same place? Why would anyone keep doing that?
You’d have to stop at some point and ask yourself, what aspect of me is even doing this inquiry?
And when you realise that it is your own self critic, your own judge doing this inquiry, then you can see why you end up experiencing the same cycles of limitation and smallness time and time again.
What if you just stopped trying to work it out?
What if you just stopped needing to understand your pain, to understand your fear, to understand your resistance any more than you already do? and instead, remember to keep focussing your attention towards something else.
After all, we get what we focus on. We create what we focus our attention on. So if your attention goes onto resolving and understanding your fearfulness more and more, then what do you think you will get more of? An obvious question really, but lets just be clear here.
So, why don’t you and I work together to break that habit. Why don’t we work on short-cutting the pathway to feeling good and short-cutting the pathway to your innate magnificence and power. After all, as the saying goes, we are here for a good time, not for a long time! The time can only ever be now.
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Today’s post may be a little hard to hear! But truth is a lot like that sometimes isn’t it ; )
You always get what you deserve!
It’s a bummer isn’t it! or is it?
When we play out our lives like stuff happens to us, like we are the victim of circumstance or we have either good luck or bad luck, then life can be a bummer from time to time.
So when we usually say that you get what you deserve, its nearly always layered with lots of judgment and criticism and often used with righteous accusation or wrongdoing. Or at the very least it comes with a heavy powerless feeling that convinces you that because you’re not good enough, you should put up with whatever it appears you deserve.
But what if we took out all the judgment from that expression -You get what you deserve- all it really means is that you are always getting a reflection of what you have been choosing or not choosing, acting or not acting upon. Like the old adage, you reap what you sow.
So if you are not willing to change your perspective, your context, then you get what you deserve.
So if you won’t, or keep telling yourself that you can’t overcome the fear of doing something differently,you get what you deserve.
If you won’t be consistent in changing old habits and old patterns then you get what you deserve.
So when is this not a bummer?
When you step fully into a context which says that you are in the drivers seat of your life, ie. that you are the writer,director and film-maker of your whole reality, “you get what you deserve” is rich with opportunity and empowerment.
By looking at what you have going on in your life (what you deserve) with 100% personal responsibility glasses on, It becomes a reflection of your choices, both conscious and unconscious ones. It gives you insight about where your choices have been coming from, which will ultimately be from love or from fear.
From my own experience and through supporting people in this contextual shift, what this does is puts you fairly and squarely back in the seat of choice. Clear and conscious choice. A place where you can look with objectivity and less reaction and with consciousness, make a new choice. By reminding ourselves regularly that we are at choice, we are always at choice, even when it doesn’t feel like we are, life takes on a renewed aliveness and vibrancy and purpose.
So, what are you getting turning up in your life? and do you love it or at least are able to see how you deserve it.
Are you feeling deserving of what is happening or are you still judging what’s turning up and wishing and hoping things were different.
I love supporting people to make that leap, that transition from the old judgmental deserving to the purposeful, loving deserving. If you feel you could use some support in this way, feel free to drop me a message or call me and we can have a conversation to see if there’s value in partnering up.
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Working locally (on what happens within) makes a difference globally.
Each time I witness a client moving through their fearful perception and into a new expanded awareness, I feel a thrill within. For I realise in that moment that each time it occurs, the butterfly wings of awareness spread out and through everything globally. One more layer of darkness has lifted and light is restored.
So sometimes when people get caught up worrying or feeling powerless about how they could ever make a difference in the world, how little ol’ them could change the way that their country is being governed or the decisions that are being made by corporations, then I say that you must keep bringing your attention back to yourself and take responsibility for how you are showing up and how you are feeling. That is the way that you can contribute powerfully in creating the shifts you wish to experience and see in the world.
If you are waiting for things to change in your life story or are getting frustrated and feeling unable to deal with the circumstances around you, this is the time when you have forgotten the truth of who you are and just how powerful and capable you are. It’s also the time where we easily go into a cycle of self-sabotage, disgust, shame and victimhood and when we have that going on, we end up behaving in all kinds of inauthentic and limited ways.
So what are you prepared to do differently? instead of waiting.
How might you begin to bring your attention back to you and how you are turning up in life? instead of blaming others or circumstance for what’s happening.
In my experience working with my clients, shifting context in this way takes firstly the willingness to do it! It can also mean that things have got really hard in your life (that way, you’ll sit up and listen and want to make a change because its uncomfortable!) and it takes rigour and discipline as you break old habits and build new ones.
If you have been sitting with a feeling of frustration and feeling powerless, then maybe it’s time you stopped stalling and give me a call.There’s work to be done and fun to be had! I would love to partner up with you and support your new way of turning up.
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