People spend a lot of energy, time and money trying to work out WHY they feel the way they feel- they try to understand their resistance, their thinking, their patterns and self-sabotage.
When it comes down to it, for anyone who has been working on themselves in the world of personal development for a while, they will know that it always comes back to the same thing- the good old ‘not good enough’ stuff.
So its your choice, you can spend all your time, energy , money and keep experiencing the same old emotions going through your body each time you discover another subtle nuance, another version of the story in your head.
But Why? Why would you continue to do that if it always leads to the same place? Why would anyone keep doing that?
You’d have to stop at some point and ask yourself, what aspect of me is even doing this inquiry?
And when you realise that it is your own self critic, your own judge doing this inquiry, then you can see why you end up experiencing the same cycles of limitation and smallness time and time again.
What if you just stopped trying to work it out?
What if you just stopped needing to understand your pain, to understand your fear, to understand your resistance any more than you already do? and instead, remember to keep focussing your attention towards something else.
After all, we get what we focus on. We create what we focus our attention on. So if your attention goes onto resolving and understanding your fearfulness more and more, then what do you think you will get more of? An obvious question really, but lets just be clear here.
So, why don’t you and I work together to break that habit. Why don’t we work on short-cutting the pathway to feeling good and short-cutting the pathway to your innate magnificence and power. After all, as the saying goes, we are here for a good time, not for a long time! The time can only ever be now.
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Today’s post may be a little hard to hear! But truth is a lot like that sometimes isn’t it ; )
You always get what you deserve!
It’s a bummer isn’t it! or is it?
When we play out our lives like stuff happens to us, like we are the victim of circumstance or we have either good luck or bad luck, then life can be a bummer from time to time.
So when we usually say that you get what you deserve, its nearly always layered with lots of judgment and criticism and often used with righteous accusation or wrongdoing. Or at the very least it comes with a heavy powerless feeling that convinces you that because you’re not good enough, you should put up with whatever it appears you deserve.
But what if we took out all the judgment from that expression -You get what you deserve- all it really means is that you are always getting a reflection of what you have been choosing or not choosing, acting or not acting upon. Like the old adage, you reap what you sow.
So if you are not willing to change your perspective, your context, then you get what you deserve.
So if you won’t, or keep telling yourself that you can’t overcome the fear of doing something differently,you get what you deserve.
If you won’t be consistent in changing old habits and old patterns then you get what you deserve.
So when is this not a bummer?
When you step fully into a context which says that you are in the drivers seat of your life, ie. that you are the writer,director and film-maker of your whole reality, “you get what you deserve” is rich with opportunity and empowerment.
By looking at what you have going on in your life (what you deserve) with 100% personal responsibility glasses on, It becomes a reflection of your choices, both conscious and unconscious ones. It gives you insight about where your choices have been coming from, which will ultimately be from love or from fear.
From my own experience and through supporting people in this contextual shift, what this does is puts you fairly and squarely back in the seat of choice. Clear and conscious choice. A place where you can look with objectivity and less reaction and with consciousness, make a new choice. By reminding ourselves regularly that we are at choice, we are always at choice, even when it doesn’t feel like we are, life takes on a renewed aliveness and vibrancy and purpose.
So, what are you getting turning up in your life? and do you love it or at least are able to see how you deserve it.
Are you feeling deserving of what is happening or are you still judging what’s turning up and wishing and hoping things were different.
I love supporting people to make that leap, that transition from the old judgmental deserving to the purposeful, loving deserving. If you feel you could use some support in this way, feel free to drop me a message or call me and we can have a conversation to see if there’s value in partnering up.
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Working locally (on what happens within) makes a difference globally.
Each time I witness a client moving through their fearful perception and into a new expanded awareness, I feel a thrill within. For I realise in that moment that each time it occurs, the butterfly wings of awareness spread out and through everything globally. One more layer of darkness has lifted and light is restored.
So sometimes when people get caught up worrying or feeling powerless about how they could ever make a difference in the world, how little ol’ them could change the way that their country is being governed or the decisions that are being made by corporations, then I say that you must keep bringing your attention back to yourself and take responsibility for how you are showing up and how you are feeling. That is the way that you can contribute powerfully in creating the shifts you wish to experience and see in the world.
If you are waiting for things to change in your life story or are getting frustrated and feeling unable to deal with the circumstances around you, this is the time when you have forgotten the truth of who you are and just how powerful and capable you are. It’s also the time where we easily go into a cycle of self-sabotage, disgust, shame and victimhood and when we have that going on, we end up behaving in all kinds of inauthentic and limited ways.
So what are you prepared to do differently? instead of waiting.
How might you begin to bring your attention back to you and how you are turning up in life? instead of blaming others or circumstance for what’s happening.
In my experience working with my clients, shifting context in this way takes firstly the willingness to do it! It can also mean that things have got really hard in your life (that way, you’ll sit up and listen and want to make a change because its uncomfortable!) and it takes rigour and discipline as you break old habits and build new ones.
If you have been sitting with a feeling of frustration and feeling powerless, then maybe it’s time you stopped stalling and give me a call.There’s work to be done and fun to be had! I would love to partner up with you and support your new way of turning up.
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Having just returned from a delicious 5 days in Phuket, Thailand surprising a good friend for her birthday, I had the opportunity to take time for myself and refresh my connection to CoreTruth and appreciate all the experiences which have led me to this very moment. I was able to feel the power and value that lays in presence to an even deeper degree within and felt to share these words with you.
For those of you who have been wondering what it would be like to jump on board for some CoreTruth coaching and experience your fully expressed life with authenticity and clarity of mind- this post is for you.
If you’ve been sitting on the sidelines and observing the world passing you by…
If you’ve sat with an inspired idea or project or business but haven’t moved forward on it for some reason…
If you are waiting for a breakthrough to happen or something to magically appear…
If you feel trapped on the hamster wheel of life doing something that “gets you by” but you know there’s more inside…
If you are jaded by past experiences of traditional personal development fads and techniques that give fleeting results…
If you have a deep yearning to experience a life of more colours and aliveness…
I know the suffering that comes with choosing mediocrity. Playing in the “safe zone” certainly allows you to hide but over time, you feel that urge for more eating away on the inside, that undeniable rise of energy that yearns to be expressed in the world.
After working intimately with clients for the past 14 plus years, I have the privilege of seeing the patterns of self-sabotage and “not good enough” stuff and the commonalities there for us all when we are not being conscious. I have experienced how convinced we can be by the thoughts and emotions which flood our body and keep us small and limited.
I am not there for the conservatives or ‘play safers’ as there are plenty of great coaches and mentors who offer excellent work in a conventional way. I am appealing to those who for them, playing safe and living ‘the norm’ is not an option. You are willing to try out new ways of turning up in life, even if you don’t know how to do that yet. All that is required is that you recognise that feeling inside which says “YES” , even if you feel some fear or trepidation.
All it takes is to feel the space I am coming from. What does that mean? It means to realise that if you are even reading these words right now, and if you find yourself being drawn to any of the posts I share on Facebook or LinkedIn, that you already resonate and feel the space I am coming from.
In my coaching partner program you will have access to:
* as much personalised one-on-one coaching as required to support you to live your version of a fully expressed life
* a fortnightly online group coaching call so that you share and gain insights from others working in their truth.
* weekly meditation training tuition which is designed to anchor you in the present moment and integrate your session work.
If you find that your experience of your clarity and certainty is a fleeting one, that your head comes in and doubts your feeling and you fall for it, or you have let another six months go by on stepping up and taking action on what you love, the time is now.
I would like to hear from you so we can explore if there is a fit for us to work together.
#liveafullyexpressedlife #notimetowaste #clarityandfocus
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The quote below has been the theme of the day, (nay! the week!)in my sessions with my clients and it has been an absolute privilege to bear witness to the layers or fear that have been falling away from each and every one of them in their own way.
I rarely share anything about my clients and wont be sharing any names but today I feel like it’s time to highlight some key things which been happening for them as they “come to the edge” despite the inherent fear that comes up when you choose to ‘turn up and mean business’ in your life and to be fully expressed.
They are finally taking action on what they have always known they love but have been afraid to make real…
– There’s one who is about to have an exhibition of her art on July 4th, unashamedly sharing her work after years of hiding in insignificance and making excuses.
– One who is growing his business and moving it into an office bigger than he could have imagined last year, only to find that he is already filled to capacity and is now expanding to take on a whole new office in another town.
– One who has stopped taking anxiety and depression medication after many years when he realised that he was taking them largely because it was what he had learned from his parents and he now can be his own person and make his own choices.
– another who has stopped hiding behind his relationship for fear of confrontation and loss and is finally stepping into the limelight of his career and has discovered that teaching and sharing his passion with young, rural students makes him come alive.
I share these as an illustration for those of you who feel the pull inside to live a fully expressed life of truth. As a way of saying that everyone who makes that choice WILL and DO have fear come up and that it’s all part of the process. But for those who are really over waiting to realise themselves as powerful and alive and want to live who they are AUTHENTICALLY and with INSPIRATION, don’t wait for that fear to go away! For my clients, they realise that when they practice what we work on in our sessions, they NO LONGER NEED the fear to go, in fact they USE IT to propel themselves towards what they love.
Are you waiting for the fear to go before you take the leap?
Are you ready to know yourself beyond all the fear?
Are you willing to take a leap and show yourself just how magnificent and capable and unlimited you truly are?
If the answer is YES! Then maybe I’m the one to push and witness you flying. Please private message me to talk about partnering up at this ‘edge’ in your life. : )
“Come to the edge, he said.
We are afraid, they said.
Come to the edge, he said.
They came to the edge,
He pushed them and they flew.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came. It pushed them…
And they flew.”
-Christopher Logue
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