Do you hold back on giving yourself things or experiences you love and which make you feel good? Do you know, not just intellectually know that you are unlimited and abundant by nature?
We often don’t realise that we are treating ourselves as paupers rather than acknowledging the truth that we are THE single most important person in our world. Though it’s a common religious belief to put others needs and desires first, this action can only truly and unconditionally be done by coming from a place of full and undeniable value of YOURSELF first. Take care of your inner experience of happiness and peace before looking to give it elsewhere.
How else are we going to give ourselves the real-life, embodied experience of our abundant nature, unless we are willing to keep the lines of energy open within ourselves. What this in practical terms means is to open your heart and mind and move towards a deep and unshakeable place of TRUST WITHIN. To do this, we have to take ourselves to the uncomfortable edge, the place that is challenging and brings up fearfulness. The exact opposite of what our head and its chatter monkey tells us. When you do this consciously, with support and guidance, you build your resilience and confidence in living freely in the moment. You show yourself through real-life experience, that you have got your own back.
I call this ‘living on the comfortably-uncomfortable edge’. And this edge takes some practice and diligence. It takes a willingness to follow your intuition, your feeling inside that guides you without rational back-upable proof! It takes regular and consistent leaps into the unknown and taking actions that your safety mechanisms won’t like or agree with.
So if your uncomfortable edge is like most people, about money, then I challenge you to take yourself to the edge. The thing you have loved which you have kept locked up in your head for a while, you know, the one whose price tag is beyond your current comfort zone, make the choice to buy it. Yes of course you will have many voices of judgment come up, ‘I’m being reckless!’, ‘what if I get unexpected bills!” , or my particular favourite, “how do I know that it’s something that I truly want and that I’m not going to regret it?!”
Without taking a risk, you will never give yourself the the circumstances VITAL to show yourself your abilities and certainty within. You will continue to sell yourself short.
Expect discomfort, instead of being surprised by it.
I challenge you to remind yourself of a time in your life where you stretched yourself, where you just didn’t know if you could make it through something, that you felt at breaking point and had sleepless nights. Then notice how you felt AFTER that experience, how you felt more expanded, more alive, more certain. What if you were able to remain focussed on that expanded and alive space, the space where you felt empowered and trusting?
- Perhaps you have been sitting back and waiting for the ‘right time’…a sneaky way of not trusting.
- Perhaps you are always playing it safe, worrying about tomorrow instead of jumping in today…not trusting.
- Perhaps you have been ‘saving for a rainy day’ or insuring or backing-up for the future…not-trusting.
- Perhaps you are waiting for your head to agree with your heart, missing out on living in the moment…not trusting!
- Perhaps you’re riddled with self-doubt, lack of confidence, feeling scared or paralysed into inaction…again not trusting!!
All of these things and more besides can be moved through. They don’t need to keep you a prisoner in your own life. It’s time to show yourself that you are more than the limited thoughts and ideas you have in your head. It’s time that you showed yourself what it is like to live a fully expressed life that you love.
I am enrolling now for my 3-month Coaching Partner Program and am looking for 4 new people to join me. In this program you will be able to show yourself how and why you have limited yourself and your choices. What you have played small about and why you feel blocked and unsure. You will also learn how to break through this confusion and old habits. You will show yourself what happens when you really have a safe space to explore, free of judgement and stop playing small. 12 short weeks to show yourself the possibilities and make some real shifts in your life.
Do you feel the tingle?! Making a commitment to work with me is the first big step in showing yourself that you deserve to live a fully expressed life. Drop me a line and I’ll be happy to explore working with you to get what it is you would love to have for yourself.
#coretruths #liveafullyexpressedlife #sellyourselfshortnomore
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You know, those small seemingly easy-to-overlook decisions where you take the safe option, the ‘anything for a quiet life” choice, the ‘better the devil you know’ way of life which leads down the same old path of feeling uninspired and mediocre. Sometimes, if you are really paying attention, you will notice that the choices you are making don’t even feel like yours, it’s like you are playing out someone else’s life.
Every time you compromise and hold back out of fear….
Every time you have not made a choice to follow what you love for fear of consequences? Not enough time, not enough money, and then all of a sudden its another year of your life thats gone by…
Every time you say you are going to do something new or challenging but then pull back?…
Here’s the deal… and it sounds funny but I have the latest lyrics from Madonna ringing in my ears:
“It might sound like I’m an unapologetic bitch but sometimes you know I gotta call it like it is!!!” …
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS THE RIGHT TIME TO TAKE A LEAP. Stop waiting for it! Your logical rational mind isn’t wired for the unknown,the new, the inspired. In fact it’s fair to say that it has a great aversion to it most of the time!
Of late I have noticed a lot of people absolutely feeling a Yes! to do something or a feeling to go somewhere or take action on something but then a WHOLE lot of backtracking bullshit stories appear, a whole load of holding off until ‘the right time’ or waiting for the fear to subside, or waiting for their head to to agree with their feeling.
Again I wish to declare: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS THE RIGHT TIME TO TAKE A LEAP!
The right time is there and then-the moment that the feeling occurs to you IS the best time. We have got so used to trying to get our head to agree to what our heart is telling us and that can take forever- so then you end up living a lot of NEVER.
Stop living your life waiting! Its only ever going to be your head trying to catch up with the infinite wisdom and knowing that your feeling has available to it. Life is only ever lived in the present moment, but just how often are you inhabiting the moment?
And that’s where I can support you. When I work with my clients, I support them to live a fully expressed life through clearing the clutter they have allowed to build up in their heads so that they USE the wisdom and certainty thats already within them. They stop apologising for what they know to be true, stop playing small and limiting their lives by telling themselves bullshit stories that they have ended up believing out of habit. I work with people who mean business with themselves and who are tired of feeling limited and shying away from what they love. It’s time to bring the fullness of who you are into play and show up with all of your might.
Im currently looking for 4 more people who resonate with what I have shared, who’ve had enough of stalling and putting off putting themselves first and daring to live an authentic and inspired life. These people are no longer willing to agree with mediocrity and compromise and want to move through their ideas of limitation. They’ve had enough of letting themselves off the hook and criticising and judging themselves. And they are over the ways in which they sabotage themselves whenever they go for what they love.
Are you one of the 4? If you feel a pull within, I’m interested in speaking with you to determine if we are the right fit and that I can support you to get what it is you need.
#liveafullyexpressedlife #coretruths #mediocritysucks #thereisnoRIGHTtime
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Definition: ‘the magical power or process of transmuting a common substance, usually of little value, into a substance of great value.’ or more commonly described as the process of turning lead into gold.
In session with one of my clients this afternoon, we sat together in a space of peace and connection. Let me be real here and say that this isn’t always the case and as anyone who has decided to live a fully expressed life would know, there’s often a lot of ‘cleaning’ to be done to reach that space. This beautiful man showed up like he had never done before. He began, as usual by sharing how he was feeling and what had been happening for him since we last were together.
Something was different about him this time. The way he walked in, the shininess in his eyes and the clarity of his skin was luminescent. He literally looked like he could barely stay inside the confines of his body. Though he had had many shifts in his awareness and lightness about him before, today was deeper and spellbinding to observe.
He went on to express how much had dropped into place for him since last week. I have been supporting my clients through a 30-day cleanse with naturopath, Camila Hynes from Nurturing Health and he had been out to the fabulous Cooks Co-op at Sackville and shared a delicious lunch around the table with all my other clients. He shared that he had gained so much from hearing other people sharing and an enormous layer of self-judgment had melted away for him. A part of him which he had been holding onto for dear life around fearful comparison and judgment had finally come to rest.
You could say that it was a combination of eating clean food and exercising, but in his case, he always did eat pretty clean anyway. And he already had a regular and committed exercise routine before we started working together. But this was more than the usual level of aliveness and freedom I had witnessed in him before.
He continued to say that he had been following through on some of the work we had been doing, taking action on things we had uncovered in his sessions and amongst them had some necessary courageous conversations. He, like a lot of people had lived the majority of his life withholding and compromising the very essence of who he is from the world. But not any longer. He had finally realised that he could no longer keep putting himself and his truth second. Not to his family, not to his staff, not to partners or his friends. Prior to this, he was as wrapped up and in fear as anyone I have known and had been hiding his authenticity and truth all his adult life. This man is in his mid-late forties and had hidden his sexuality, had played small and insignificant, had exhausted himself through overcommitting, people pleasing and rescuing until finally the dam began to crack and instead of trying to control it,(though he tried very hard to!) he went through it. And this was the result. Peaceful, expansive, loving.
Would he be where he is, alive and vibrant as I witnessed him today had he backed out when the going got tough, or when he was afraid or confused ( which he was crippled by so many times throughout our process together) about the next steps? No, instead he committed to himself in our sessions without guarantees and for him, backing out and giving up was not an option.
I was able to show him ( or rather he showed himself!) where all the previous challenges, pain, struggle and heartache had led him to this very breakthrough and to how he was feeling right now. Not in an evangelical, WOW Ive been healed! kind of way, but in a still, powerful, embodied way where he acknowledged himself and also where he still has work to do and limitation to move through. Truly beautiful.
This is the kind of magic that I believe I witnessed the power of today.
I’m humbled and blessed to say that I bear witness to this process of alchemy on a daily basis with my clients. But today in particular I am moved to share this with you in case you have temporarily lost sight of the possibility and magic within yourself. May the metaphor of alchemy, of turning lead into gold be a reminder that no matter how stuck, damaged, fearful, small, frustrated, angry, resistant you have believed yourself to be, it can be moved through. And, most of all, it doesn’t have to take forever. xxx
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What if for just one day ( to start with!) we each chose to focus on PEACE. Just imagine it! The whole globe fuelling their minds, viewing their world and flavouring their choices with PEACE! After all, its pretty common knowledge nowadays that we get more of what we most focus on.
SO what is it you most focus on?
I have had a practice and one which I share with my clients which is to spend some time just after waking and before I get out of bed, focus on being present to what is occurring in my body.
‘Being present to’ doesn’t mean judge or analyse what is going on in your body- but simply becoming aware, observing what is going on with neutral perspective. Thats why its a practice, you need to practice!! It’s an old habit to allow our head to look for what’s wrong, what’s not going well, what needs fixing.
But gradually, with growing patience and discipline you can reach that neutral view and then your more conscious choice can be made. Choose to focus on something you love, something that brings you a sense of peace, joy, connectedness, aliveness, contentedness… and get reeeaaaaallllyy good at being able to shift your attention back to these no matter what your head distracting you with.
DW x
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I became aware of a heaviness within – a slowing up – upon hearing the news that came from our government yesterday that blocked the free vote on marriage equality. I recognized it as the feeling I get whenever I become conscious of a choice made from fear and fuelled with the dynamics of power and control and the resulting feeling of powerlessness.
Ultimately I am aware also that this too must be seen as an opportunity to remind myself, those around me and whom I work with, that there is a bigger picture playing itself out and not to get lost in the emotions of disappointment and anger towards Tony Abbott and his allies. We are part of a flawed system and as such it makes no sense to give it so much energy. What appears to be happening is always what happens when ego goes into battle with ego- it’s why wars happen and why so many of the choices that our current government are making, seem crazy and downright dangerous. Ego always wants to be right and so there’s never a winner.
It’s a tough call to make here, but essential if we are to rise in our consciousness and not fall prey to adding to this war. At times like this we must dig deep and do the work that’s required to find the space of love within. To realize that to hate and blame and judge Tony Abbott will only increase the stalemate situations we find ourselves in. To see beyond the external and personal wrapping he comes in and observe instead the role he is playing for us all. To stop looking for him and his supporters to change and to stop acting from fear and instead ruthlessly do that in each of our own lives and in our own ways. Tony Abbott (and others in our recent history such as George Bush, Francisco Franco and Benito Mussolini) and the way he is governing is a reflection of what we collectively are UNconsciously choosing.
If we were to each stop and ask ourselves some of the harder questions from a place of personal responsibility;
– For what purpose am I being served by having a leader in power who is behaving this way ?…Is it because I don’t believe I have the power myself and therefore must “outsource” it to others?
-How is it I am contributing to what is happening, even if I didn’t personally vote for the coalition government?…am I not speaking up about what is true for me?
and most importantly, if I can take my attention away from playing the blame game with the government, where can I focus my attention that will shift this current experience?
There is another theme I notice with these people in power, the time where they appear to be at their most powerful is simultaneously the time where they are most disapproved of publicly. In their outrageous display of censorship and misuse of power, unwittingly the lose their true power by ignoring the opportunity to dialogue, conciliate and negotiate and truly represent the collective. What is that all about?
Perhaps the emotions that are stirred up by people who push our buttons in this way are there as fuel. Fuel to step up and out of complacency. By them acting exactly the way they do, in fact creates an opening, a calling if you like for the new leader of love to stand out. In fact we can see it already in some of the reportage today, messages of love and support from people who are also in positions of power and influence politically. Taking action from love is imperative but also it’s critical to remember that everything which is occurring and has occurred up until now is contributing to the impending tipping point in our global political structure….and THAT’S the exciting part!
The passage from fear to love can feel incredibly arduous and long and often filled with seeming potholes and disappointments but along that pathway we expand and learn so much about ourselves and each other. But getting caught up in the story and allowing it to decide how you feel is not a road to peace of mind. When the stuff going on around you is crazy and desperately trying to rob you of your happiness, its a time to go to work! Relentless practice to focus your attention and bring yourself back into the here and now of your life, being present to what is in the moment and following the inspiration there because it’s that inspiration that gets lost when the thoughts get loud. It’s up to you to remember to choose how you are feeling and find that unshakeable place amongst the noise.
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People spend a lot of energy, time and money trying to work out WHY they feel the way they feel- they try to understand their resistance, their thinking, their patterns and self-sabotage.
When it comes down to it, for anyone who has been working on themselves in the world of personal development for a while, they will know that it always comes back to the same thing- the good old ‘not good enough’ stuff.
So its your choice, you can spend all your time, energy , money and keep experiencing the same old emotions going through your body each time you discover another subtle nuance, another version of the story in your head.
But Why? Why would you continue to do that if it always leads to the same place? Why would anyone keep doing that?
You’d have to stop at some point and ask yourself, what aspect of me is even doing this inquiry?
And when you realise that it is your own self critic, your own judge doing this inquiry, then you can see why you end up experiencing the same cycles of limitation and smallness time and time again.
What if you just stopped trying to work it out?
What if you just stopped needing to understand your pain, to understand your fear, to understand your resistance any more than you already do? and instead, remember to keep focussing your attention towards something else.
After all, we get what we focus on. We create what we focus our attention on. So if your attention goes onto resolving and understanding your fearfulness more and more, then what do you think you will get more of? An obvious question really, but lets just be clear here.
So, why don’t you and I work together to break that habit. Why don’t we work on short-cutting the pathway to feeling good and short-cutting the pathway to your innate magnificence and power. After all, as the saying goes, we are here for a good time, not for a long time! The time can only ever be now.
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