Build a foundation laid with dreams. The fools in life want things fast and easy — attention, fame, money, success.Boredom is their great enemy. And FEAR. And whatever they manage to get slips through their hands like a slippery fish, because they never really had it.
You, on the other hand, want to outlast your rivals. You awant to build the foundation for something that will continue to grow and expand.
To make this happen you’ll need to serve a sort of apprenticeship. Learn early on to endure the hours of practice and drudgery, knowing that in the end you will reach the ultimate skill level, and that all of your time and effort will translate into a higher pleasure = you get to be the master of your craft, as well as of your self.
You can’t ‘do’ vulnerability, you must ‘be’ vulnerable. I find that with myself and with my clients, that often means some re-framing around what vulnerability really means. If you are making it mean, fearful,open to attack, blame, guilt,fragile, then why on earth would anyone want to be that?! When I came to realise that being vulnerable was actually about TRUST, it changed everything. It meant that when I was being vulnerable, I knew that it meant that I was truly trusting myself to really show up in the room. That’s where transformation occurs, at that point of surrender and letting go and TRUSTING that I had my own back and didn’t require another to do that for me.
Transformation of our personal circumstances happens through our ability to feel. Our ability to feel our emotions and at the same time building our emotional resilience* is how we free ourselves from being at the mercy of whatever is going on around us. Even if it isn’t easy to name whatever emotion it is you have identified, you can still feel into it and it will have the same effect because this is not something which needs to be understood by our mind. While you practice this, emotions which you may find uncomfortable could come up, but understand that this is part of becoming resilient and remember, you can’t die from an emotion! There’s a famous expression, “you’ve got to feel it to heal it!”
*(your ability to be with whatever is so in that moment – versus resistant and defiantly pushing away or battening down the hatches in the hope that it will pass)
Here is my article written for CourageousLeaders.com.au- enjoy
When I think of courage in the context of leadership, I’m aware of a shifting groundswell of an evolution in emerging leaders. A growing number of people waking up to a fresh understanding around what leadership is and what it requires of them. (more…)
When you know that who you are is not measured by the results or ‘success’ in your life, then you are free to do what you love.
Thanks to a friend Karen who posted this picture on Facebook,
(and for those who are unable to read the picture above it reads: “The couples that are meant to be are the ones that go through everything which is designed to tear them apart and come out even stronger than they were before.”)
It inspired me to share a distinction I have – and that is that ‘coming out stronger’ than they were before does not necessarily mean that they stay physically together. The word commitment means so many different things,as many as there are people in the world. If you have commitment mean ‘the choice to no longer have a choice when it comes to an intimate relationship with another’(wrap your ears around that one!), then you are more likely to experience you both doing that physically together in the same space. Whereas if you are committing to a old paradigm 50/50 , ‘you complete me’ kind of model, then its unlikely that you will stay together once either one of you doesn’t turn up the way that is expected.That’s where the arguments come in and the expectations are not met and why we have so many people divorcing or more regularly not getting married at all in order to avoid divorcing.
So I wonder what it is you are really committing to in your relationship?
