Thanks to a friend Karen who posted this picture on Facebook,

(and for those who are unable to read the picture above it reads: “The couples that are meant to be are the ones that go through everything which is designed to tear them apart and come out even stronger than they were before.”)

It inspired me to share a distinction I have – and that is that ‘coming out stronger’ than they were before does not necessarily mean that they stay physically together. The word commitment means so many different things,as many as there are people in the world. If you have commitment mean ‘the choice to no longer have a choice when it comes to an intimate relationship with another’(wrap your ears around that one!), then you are more likely to experience you both doing that physically together in the same space. Whereas if you are committing to a old paradigm 50/50 , ‘you complete me’ kind of model, then its unlikely that you will stay together once either one of you doesn’t turn up the way that is expected.That’s where the arguments come in and the expectations are not met and why we have so many people divorcing or more regularly not getting married at all in order to avoid divorcing.

So I wonder what it is you are really committing to in your relationship?