Transformation of our personal circumstances happens through our ability to feel. Our ability to feel our emotions and at the same time building our emotional resilience* is how we free ourselves from being at the mercy of whatever is going on around us. Even if it isn’t easy to name whatever emotion it is you have identified, you can still feel into it and it will have the same effect because this is not something which needs to be understood by our mind. While you practice this, emotions which you may find uncomfortable could come up, but understand that this is part of becoming resilient and remember, you can’t die from an emotion! There’s a famous expression, “you’ve got to feel it to heal it!”
*(your ability to be with whatever is so in that moment – versus resistant and defiantly pushing away or battening down the hatches in the hope that it will pass)