After a recent session with a client I was moved to ponder more deeply on the question; Why do we fill up our time with busyness? It’s because it makes us feel (or not feel) something… more of something- more important, valuable, powerful, needed, secure. Or indeed avoiding by feeling less of something- angry, sad, disappointed, not good enough.
This is why so often we feel like a hamster on a wheel, doing things on autopilot without being connected to our truth. There’s so much burnout from over commitment and therefore feelings of overwhelm take over. Two of the most common experiences I hear people complain of when I’m supporting clients in their self-realisation process are anxiety and depression, both of which are states caused by being in our heads, over-and projecting into the future or the past. At the extreme end of this pendulum this habitual over-thinking is often diagnosed as manic depressiveness and Bi-polar disorder. (more…)
If you are not experiencing something you think you want in your life, a new job, new relationship, more money, simply put, its because you don’t have the space for it. Instead of trying hundreds of ways of making that thing come, put your focus on clearing space. This is something I have dedicated the past year to and continue to be present with which has meant spending much time alone and unplugged from the madding crowd. This of course means challenging the very strong parts of ego that are reliant on people’s approval, wanting to belong, the fear of missing out or being overlooked. But in the space, the space in between the thoughts and the emotions that arise lies peace and joy. A happiness that is not needy or dependent upon circumstances and stuff to be experienced. Stepping off, unplugging if you will, from the ‘way things are or should be” and feeling into spaciousness below the level of the noisy chatter monkey brain. Here is where I find who I really am and where I find what I truly want. This is where I find contentment with whatever turns up in the craziness of day to day life and a deep knowing that Iam OK and everything in my world is perfectly orchestrated and in perfect order.
This is what CoreTruth is about for those who feel that yearning inside to have this experience.
“peace. it does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart” unknown
Since last November I have been learning and experiencing the impact of what I eat and drink on my ability to be present and focused. A major part of what I have been experimenting with and more importantly enjoying immensely is my commitment to eating organic fruit and vegetables wherever possible.
To set some context for you, when I started this eating approach, I was someone who LOVED his food. I was of the belief that if I wanted something, I would have it with little awareness to what it was, the quality of it or where and how it was grown. I had good enough health for a 39 year old apart from a higher (conventional) cholesterol reading than the ‘normal’ range and an irritated bowel occasionally. I hadn’t eaten red meat or pork since I was 11 years old but did eat a lot of chicken and some fish and I had a more than enthusiastic taste for desert!! I wasn’t just a sweet tooth, but a savoury tooth also and due to long held habits, I would eat at uneven intervals through the day and often would overeat in a sitting due to missing meals. (more…)
The Waves of Energetic Movement. (excerpted from an article I wrote for www.courageousleaders.com.au )
It is more widely understood and proven now that everything we experience is energy and that the only thing that differentiates between the wooden desk we sit at and say, our skin or our thoughts is a difference in the frequency of that energy. (more…)
What I notice quite frequently with my clients is the resistance around at least one area of their life. Whether that be relationships, people who are pissing them off – or career, a role that annoys them – or themselves, not clever or skinny enough!
When I remind them that they are always at choice, no matter what the circumstances are around them, they are quick to agree on MOST things….but not THAT thing. That one achilles heel in their life where they really resist and dont want to take personal responsibility for choosing.
So what is it YOU obsess about and find a constant challenge or bone of contention? What can’t you accept is your choosing?
Now I get that its not easy to take responsibility at times and more especially when whatever we dont want to is causing us pain and frustration. After all, we are pleasure seeking missiles and at times that means it’s more more pleasurable to stick needles into ourselves than to face up to those really tough areas in our lives. (That’s the time when we use the saying ‘I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place’)
So how can you bring yourself into alignment with what you’ve chosen?
First of all you remind yourself that you aren’t always conscious of what you are choosing- thats why we are often surprised at what turns up in our lives and drives us crazy. But just because we aren’t conscious of what we are choosing doesn’t mean that we haven’t. And one tip – don’t keep looking for WHY you have chosen whatever it is, just act ‘as if’ you have and invite yourself to TRUST. MMMmmmm the ‘T’ word!
Secondly, have a go at looking at how the situation serves you, what is DOES for you rather what it DOESN’T do for you. eg. How is it helping me to believe that I need to be wary and not trusting in relationship? What am I getting from believing that I have low self-esteem? What do I get as a benefit by playing the rescuer to my friends? This may take sitting down and getting present and being honest with yourself and NOT rallying the army of well-meaning friends and allies to gossip about your story. Only you can connect to the truth for you.
If you can accept the truth that you are the writer, director and videographer of your whole life and that you are always choosing from a loving and wise place inside of you, then you can begin to feel the power that it gives you. You leave the victim energy behind you and start wising up to what is really going on and what you would prefer to be experiencing and focusing on.
If this tweaks something inside of you and you are interested in learning more about this, please send me a message or click here and join me this coming Sunday. x
This is a question I hear from clients and I have definitely asked of my mentors before. And the truth is you can’t speed up your process, it will unfold in its own time and with infinite wisdom. But you can take the brakes off and enter the deliciousness of the flow of your process. This is where it can feel like you are moving more quickly. You know, those times where you are fully present with where you are, perhaps doing something you love and you slip into a timeless experience. All of a sudden, hours have gone by and it only felt like minutes.
When you can learn to flip your perception of your challenge from something you resist and deny to one where you accept and embrace, that’s when you can remember who you are, which is unlimited and always Ok, loveable and valuable, no matter what is turning up. This way your challenge could well still be there but your experience of it is transformed to one of more ease and flow.
What challenges are you facing that you are feeling you just want to get over right away? A wise person once shared with me, “If you are doing something just to get through it, you are missing the value in that experience. And then life (=you) will need to give that experience to you again until you move through it and get the jewel.”
I choose to be conscious as I move through my challenges, I choose to get the jewels embedded in my experiences…whats your choice?
x
