Today I am writing to a more specific person out there. And for me to be able to do this, I am going to share with you in a way that may feel quite different to those of you who read my blog posts regularly.
Today I’m reaching out to those of you who are the outliers, the misfits, the ones who may even feel like a bit of a freak! I’m reaching out to those who feel misunderstood and perhaps alienated and separate and deeply alone. The ones who have faced or are facing a space of seeming darkness and feel at a loss.
I know your pain- I know what it feels like to be in this space which may come as a surprise to many of you who have only seen me AFTER all my years of transformation work and hours of my own coaching and mentoring with numerous people around Australia and overseas.
When I was in my early 20’s I was fortunate enough to be referred to a naturopath/dietician to whom I went for some guidance and support around depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. I say fortunate because I was told that had I gone down the conventional route of western medicine, I would’ve been diagnosed as manic depressive and put on medication. But something inside me wasn’t ready for that to be my fate and by going to the naturopath, I embarked on an intensive re-programming of my body chemistry and head-space which led to me clearing the ‘dark cloud of misery’ that used to descend on me almost like clockwork each 4-6 weeks for anything from 1 to 5 days at a time.
Was it an easy experience, HELL NO! I had been ‘managing’ this monthly occurrence since my teens, learning that if I could just hold out for one more day, that it would pass, but managing isn’t transforming anything and it was exhausting. There had to be another way and that’s where my journey began.
One vital thing I learned back then was that our greatest gold, our innate gift and power lies in our biggest challenges. I was drawn to do the work that was required to see how I had ‘called in’ depression and anxiety for very good reason and not that I was broken and flawed as both myself and most of the general population viewed it.
It was this deep internal enquiry, provoked by that free-thinking naturopath that ultimately led me to do what I do today with my clients. In simple terms, how on earth was I to be able to support others with their own mental challenges unless I had experienced this in my own body. It wasn’t enough for me to have learned it in a text book and regurgitate facts and figures alone.
So what I know to be true is that no matter what it is you are going through right now, there is another way of viewing that challenge. Another way in which you can free yourself from the fearful perception of ‘not good enough’ and the unworthiness you feel with all the shameful, guilty and sad emotions that bind you.
And the really tough stuff you experience contains the key to your own gold within and informs what you are here to offer to the world.
I am here to support people in uncovering this (core!)truth, I am here to partner with you to bring that into fruition, to own your inner freak and embrace being the outlier or misfit! It’s always been in there, just hidden amongst the clutter! What better time than right here and now, where we can leverage the energy of the end of this year, to enable you to begin the new year on the path towards living your own version of a fully expressed life. I extend an invitation to those who resonate with these words and who can no longer keep managing their emotions to call me. I look forward to hearing from you.
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“The quieter you become, the more you can hear.” Ram Dass
After spending a glorious week in Tasmania recently, I was reminded of how vital it is to keep coming back to the place of peace and quiet within. Nature offers so much when it comes to dropping out of my head and its never-ending torrent of thoughts and provides an instant bridge into the present moment.
When you quieten your mind enough, you can feel and then express the wisdom that comes through you. This is sometimes called intuition, inter-connectedness, source-energy, love. Whatever it is called in your world, make it a priority to connect with it through stillness and watch with wonderment how life unfolds with all its synchronicity and perfection.
I find that in working with people, they often expect this to be easy, and come with no pressure or challenge when they are in this space but this is a misconception of the truth. This is where ‘personal transformation’ becomes woo-woo and leaves people feeling cynical and full of doubt.
Having the ability to feel this quietness within, no matter what is going on around you is what must be fostered, with conscious practice and diligence. As your resilience builds, so does your peace of mind.
I am opening my practice to partnering up with 3 more people who know that it is time for them to build their emotional resilience and want more peace and certainty in their lives. These people already can feel that they are ready but may keep falling prey to their thoughts and fears of capability and resources. I urge you three to dig deep and step up , I am here to support you to reach the clarity and peace of mind that allows you to live a fully expressed life. If you feel even the faintest pull within, I look forward to hearing from you so that we can discover if there is a fit for what I can offer.
What if for just one day ( to start with!) we each chose to focus on PEACE. Just imagine it! The whole globe fuelling their minds, viewing their world and flavouring their choices with PEACE! After all, its pretty common knowledge nowadays that we get more of what we most focus on.
SO what is it you most focus on?
I have had a practice and one which I share with my clients which is to spend some time just after waking and before I get out of bed, focus on being present to what is occurring in my body.
‘Being present to’ doesn’t mean judge or analyse what is going on in your body- but simply becoming aware, observing what is going on with neutral perspective. Thats why its a practice, you need to practice!! It’s an old habit to allow our head to look for what’s wrong, what’s not going well, what needs fixing.
But gradually, with growing patience and discipline you can reach that neutral view and then your more conscious choice can be made. Choose to focus on something you love, something that brings you a sense of peace, joy, connectedness, aliveness, contentedness… and get reeeaaaaallllyy good at being able to shift your attention back to these no matter what your head distracting you with.
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The quote below has been the theme of the day, (nay! the week!)in my sessions with my clients and it has been an absolute privilege to bear witness to the layers or fear that have been falling away from each and every one of them in their own way.
I rarely share anything about my clients and wont be sharing any names but today I feel like it’s time to highlight some key things which been happening for them as they “come to the edge” despite the inherent fear that comes up when you choose to ‘turn up and mean business’ in your life and to be fully expressed.
They are finally taking action on what they have always known they love but have been afraid to make real…
– There’s one who is about to have an exhibition of her art on July 4th, unashamedly sharing her work after years of hiding in insignificance and making excuses.
– One who is growing his business and moving it into an office bigger than he could have imagined last year, only to find that he is already filled to capacity and is now expanding to take on a whole new office in another town.
– One who has stopped taking anxiety and depression medication after many years when he realised that he was taking them largely because it was what he had learned from his parents and he now can be his own person and make his own choices.
– another who has stopped hiding behind his relationship for fear of confrontation and loss and is finally stepping into the limelight of his career and has discovered that teaching and sharing his passion with young, rural students makes him come alive.
I share these as an illustration for those of you who feel the pull inside to live a fully expressed life of truth. As a way of saying that everyone who makes that choice WILL and DO have fear come up and that it’s all part of the process. But for those who are really over waiting to realise themselves as powerful and alive and want to live who they are AUTHENTICALLY and with INSPIRATION, don’t wait for that fear to go away! For my clients, they realise that when they practice what we work on in our sessions, they NO LONGER NEED the fear to go, in fact they USE IT to propel themselves towards what they love.
Are you waiting for the fear to go before you take the leap?
Are you ready to know yourself beyond all the fear?
Are you willing to take a leap and show yourself just how magnificent and capable and unlimited you truly are?
If the answer is YES! Then maybe I’m the one to push and witness you flying. Please private message me to talk about partnering up at this ‘edge’ in your life. : )
“Come to the edge, he said.
We are afraid, they said.
Come to the edge, he said.
They came to the edge,
He pushed them and they flew.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came. It pushed them…
And they flew.”
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