One of the magic stages in creating the life that you truly love, which is fully expressed and alive, is the surfing the wave of MOMENTUM. Some call this FLOW. But what I have noticed is that it is a stage in the process where people get fooled the most by their head.
As Robert Fritz wrote about in his book, The Path of Least Resistance, where he shares the steps necessary to consciously create your life through the harnessing of tension, there are 3 key stages to the creative process:
GERMINATION- conception, the seed of an idea or inspiration which comes with lots of energy of excitement and enthusiasm.
ASSIMILIATION- embodying the vision of the idea which takes effort and diligence. The initial excitement of germination energy has dissipated and its about allowing the momentum to build with taking action and have it begin moving you towards what you have seen in your vision.
COMPLETION-acknowledgent and receiving the fullness of your vision manifest in your life.
When working with my clients, the place where they are most likely tempted to drop off is in the assimilation stage. They start becoming lazy with their practice or complacent with the results which start to occur and lose the feeling inside of appreciation and gratitude. They perhaps have managed to get some relief from their current circumstances, usually emotional relief or financial or relationship improvements have occurred and they doubt whether they need to continue.
All we have to do to look at where we have each fallen prey to this stage is to look at all the half finished projects we have around us. Half-written masterpieces, unfinished paintings, awesome business plans sitting in the drawer, all laying redundant. The excuses of ‘not enough time, not enough money, not enough ‘xxx’ (fill in the blank!), are the excuses we have rationalised that make us feel better but deep down just another opportunity to feel dissatisfied with ourselves.
Learning to harness the tension at this key stage of assimilation is vital to living a fully expressed life. Learning not to listen to the chatter monkey inside and continuing to take the one step that is always in front of us and not getting bogged down by the overwhelm of change and potentiality of the vision is equally vital.
If you can dig really deep at this stage and stay firmly planted in the here and now of your life and STAY PLUGGED IN, CONNECTED with what has been working for you, you stand the best chance of reaching the completion stage. The stage which still has its own hurdles to overcome but at least you have shown yourself that you have the capacity to bring what you love into reality.
So,
…for those of you who are wondering why you keep dropping the ball of your vision and are confused about why,
…for those who keep telling themselves that there must be an easier way,
…for those who who feel like an island in their lives doing the hard yards alone
give me a call or private message me. I am looking for 4 seriously committed people to join my initial 3-month Coaching Partner Program who would love to surf the wave of momentum and build a solid foundation for 2016 and beyond. Sessions are held on Skype or FaceTime for those clients who are from overseas. I look forward to speaking with you.
#livefullyexpressed #momentum #dontgetfooled #coretruths
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“You have all that’s required within, you have just allowed things to cloud you from that truth. ”
DW
Do you hold back on giving yourself things or experiences you love and which make you feel good? Do you know, not just intellectually know that you are unlimited and abundant by nature?
We often don’t realise that we are treating ourselves as paupers rather than acknowledging the truth that we are THE single most important person in our world. Though it’s a common religious belief to put others needs and desires first, this action can only truly and unconditionally be done by coming from a place of full and undeniable value of YOURSELF first. Take care of your inner experience of happiness and peace before looking to give it elsewhere.
How else are we going to give ourselves the real-life, embodied experience of our abundant nature, unless we are willing to keep the lines of energy open within ourselves. What this in practical terms means is to open your heart and mind and move towards a deep and unshakeable place of TRUST WITHIN. To do this, we have to take ourselves to the uncomfortable edge, the place that is challenging and brings up fearfulness. The exact opposite of what our head and its chatter monkey tells us. When you do this consciously, with support and guidance, you build your resilience and confidence in living freely in the moment. You show yourself through real-life experience, that you have got your own back.
I call this ‘living on the comfortably-uncomfortable edge’. And this edge takes some practice and diligence. It takes a willingness to follow your intuition, your feeling inside that guides you without rational back-upable proof! It takes regular and consistent leaps into the unknown and taking actions that your safety mechanisms won’t like or agree with.
So if your uncomfortable edge is like most people, about money, then I challenge you to take yourself to the edge. The thing you have loved which you have kept locked up in your head for a while, you know, the one whose price tag is beyond your current comfort zone, make the choice to buy it. Yes of course you will have many voices of judgment come up, ‘I’m being reckless!’, ‘what if I get unexpected bills!” , or my particular favourite, “how do I know that it’s something that I truly want and that I’m not going to regret it?!”
Without taking a risk, you will never give yourself the the circumstances VITAL to show yourself your abilities and certainty within. You will continue to sell yourself short.
Expect discomfort, instead of being surprised by it.
I challenge you to remind yourself of a time in your life where you stretched yourself, where you just didn’t know if you could make it through something, that you felt at breaking point and had sleepless nights. Then notice how you felt AFTER that experience, how you felt more expanded, more alive, more certain. What if you were able to remain focussed on that expanded and alive space, the space where you felt empowered and trusting?
- Perhaps you have been sitting back and waiting for the ‘right time’…a sneaky way of not trusting.
- Perhaps you are always playing it safe, worrying about tomorrow instead of jumping in today…not trusting.
- Perhaps you have been ‘saving for a rainy day’ or insuring or backing-up for the future…not-trusting.
- Perhaps you are waiting for your head to agree with your heart, missing out on living in the moment…not trusting!
- Perhaps you’re riddled with self-doubt, lack of confidence, feeling scared or paralysed into inaction…again not trusting!!
All of these things and more besides can be moved through. They don’t need to keep you a prisoner in your own life. It’s time to show yourself that you are more than the limited thoughts and ideas you have in your head. It’s time that you showed yourself what it is like to live a fully expressed life that you love.
I am enrolling now for my 3-month Coaching Partner Program and am looking for 4 new people to join me. In this program you will be able to show yourself how and why you have limited yourself and your choices. What you have played small about and why you feel blocked and unsure. You will also learn how to break through this confusion and old habits. You will show yourself what happens when you really have a safe space to explore, free of judgement and stop playing small. 12 short weeks to show yourself the possibilities and make some real shifts in your life.
Do you feel the tingle?! Making a commitment to work with me is the first big step in showing yourself that you deserve to live a fully expressed life. Drop me a line and I’ll be happy to explore working with you to get what it is you would love to have for yourself.
#coretruths #liveafullyexpressedlife #sellyourselfshortnomore
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You know, those small seemingly easy-to-overlook decisions where you take the safe option, the ‘anything for a quiet life” choice, the ‘better the devil you know’ way of life which leads down the same old path of feeling uninspired and mediocre. Sometimes, if you are really paying attention, you will notice that the choices you are making don’t even feel like yours, it’s like you are playing out someone else’s life.
Every time you compromise and hold back out of fear….
Every time you have not made a choice to follow what you love for fear of consequences? Not enough time, not enough money, and then all of a sudden its another year of your life thats gone by…
Every time you say you are going to do something new or challenging but then pull back?…
Here’s the deal… and it sounds funny but I have the latest lyrics from Madonna ringing in my ears:
“It might sound like I’m an unapologetic bitch but sometimes you know I gotta call it like it is!!!” …
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS THE RIGHT TIME TO TAKE A LEAP. Stop waiting for it! Your logical rational mind isn’t wired for the unknown,the new, the inspired. In fact it’s fair to say that it has a great aversion to it most of the time!
Of late I have noticed a lot of people absolutely feeling a Yes! to do something or a feeling to go somewhere or take action on something but then a WHOLE lot of backtracking bullshit stories appear, a whole load of holding off until ‘the right time’ or waiting for the fear to subside, or waiting for their head to to agree with their feeling.
Again I wish to declare: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS THE RIGHT TIME TO TAKE A LEAP!
The right time is there and then-the moment that the feeling occurs to you IS the best time. We have got so used to trying to get our head to agree to what our heart is telling us and that can take forever- so then you end up living a lot of NEVER.
Stop living your life waiting! Its only ever going to be your head trying to catch up with the infinite wisdom and knowing that your feeling has available to it. Life is only ever lived in the present moment, but just how often are you inhabiting the moment?
And that’s where I can support you. When I work with my clients, I support them to live a fully expressed life through clearing the clutter they have allowed to build up in their heads so that they USE the wisdom and certainty thats already within them. They stop apologising for what they know to be true, stop playing small and limiting their lives by telling themselves bullshit stories that they have ended up believing out of habit. I work with people who mean business with themselves and who are tired of feeling limited and shying away from what they love. It’s time to bring the fullness of who you are into play and show up with all of your might.
Im currently looking for 4 more people who resonate with what I have shared, who’ve had enough of stalling and putting off putting themselves first and daring to live an authentic and inspired life. These people are no longer willing to agree with mediocrity and compromise and want to move through their ideas of limitation. They’ve had enough of letting themselves off the hook and criticising and judging themselves. And they are over the ways in which they sabotage themselves whenever they go for what they love.
Are you one of the 4? If you feel a pull within, I’m interested in speaking with you to determine if we are the right fit and that I can support you to get what it is you need.
#liveafullyexpressedlife #coretruths #mediocritysucks #thereisnoRIGHTtime
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You’ve probably heard of the old adage, “Never put off until tomorrow what you can do today.”
I want to share a little about timing.
Of late I have noticed a lot of people absolutely feeling a Yes! or feeling to do something or to go somewhere or take action on something but then a WHOLE lot of backtracking, a whole load of holding off until ‘the right time’ or waiting for the fear to subside, or waiting for their head to to agree with their feeling happens.
May I be bold and say that THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS THE ‘RIGHT’ TIME.
The right time is there and then- the moment that the feeling occurs to you IS the best time. There is only the now. All the doubt and backtracking and indecisiveness are just the games we play with ourselves by listening to our head!
I have an excellent example I can give you, one on my family members actually who will remain nameless (lol! you know who you are!). They moved into a new home back in the late 90’s and began looking at what they could do to improve the place and started by removing an old fireplace which was in the way of where the beautiful new large lounge they had purchased needed to go. SO out came the fireplace and instead of filling the hole up, they decided that the wall was probably going to be replaced by a new extension to the room so they would hold off for the right time. The couch was placed in front of the hole so no-one was the wiser- out of sight, out of mind.
Well, it’s now 2015 and guess what? YES you’ve got it! The hole is still there, 17 years later, enough time to do 4 renovations and extensions!
A life lived with a lot of WHAT IF”S, MAYBE’S, SHOULD’S, WOULD”S and MIGHT’S means you are letting fear run your life by avoiding mistakes, avoiding the present moment where all life is lived and the inevitable feeling of powerlessness that comes with it.
We have got so used to trying to get our head to agree to what our heart is telling us which can take forever- then you end up living a lot of NEVER.
Stop living your life waiting! Its only ever going to be your head trying to catch up with the infinite wisdom and knowing that your feeling has available to it.
Learn to move through the discomfort of change and following what you know deep inside is true for you.
Like the client who has lived 47 years of his life hiding who he was -or another who stays in a safe role at work which is prestigious but leaves her feeling empty and exhausted – or a self-confessed corporate high-flyer whose health had to get so compromised before she decided that she needed to do something differently. All of whom are now breaking out of the self-imposed restrictions and beginning to fully express themselves.
Living a fully expressed life doesn’t have to mean being the next Prime Minister (although perhaps it might!), it simply means rising above the story that your head dictates to you through the thoughts that you keep entertaining.
Let’s partner up for a period of time to support you to live your life in the here and now. To follow the inspired feeling that is within you. To move with more clarity and focus to lead a life which is fully expressed… AND to stop waiting for the ‘right’ time, one of the biggest fallacies we keep getting fooled by.
You know who you are! I look forward to your call.
❤
#thereisonlynow #fullyexpressedlife #nevertoolate #followyourfeeling
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