I became aware of this at a meeting I attended with some really gorgeous and outwardly successful people this morning. The theme I noticed was that they KNEW what was true for them and what would support them to step up and live a fully expressed life….but they just didn’t follow through on that knowing.
I see this a lot with people who have been to a lot of courses and seminars or who have read a lot of books on personal development.
It’s one thing to go about gathering lots of knowledge and a WHOLE other thing to be willing to integrate what you know.
You see, this is where your head convinces you that just by KNOWING something intellectually, that will be enough for things to shift in your world.
One of the most powerful things we can admit to is NOT knowing. When we put down our fragile pride and become vulnerable (the opposite of what our head wants to do) and open, then we start to ‘get out of our own way’. Along with dropping the need to be right, this is one of the most powerful conscious practices I know.
But why don’t we get out of our own way??
Yes its scary at first, your head will likely go a bit crazy as it grasps to hold on to the illusion of safety and control but gradually, with support and persistence, you will start to see how your life opens up in the most surprising of ways. How by getting out of your own way, (a.k.a getting out of your head with all it’s thoughts and stories) you create space to allow your soul to show you what you DO know.
So, it pays to not know sometimes, UNTIL YOU AUTHENTICALLY DO, through your own experience. It pays to be humble in your awareness. One very powerful saying shared with me by one of my mentors years ago and I am still present to in my life is:
“Never underestimate the power of being underestimated!” or in other words, there’s no need to draw attention to yourself or try and prove you ‘know it all’ to anyone when you truly know who you are.
Someone who KNOWS – and I mean truly KNOWS in an integrated, embodied way doesn’t ever need to draw attention to themselves and build themselves up.
So, are you fed up with things not shifting in your world? If you are stuck in your head and often hear yourself saying “I know” but now realise that perhaps you don’t really, I would love to hear from you.
I am expert at supporting people to speak the truth to themselves and get to their own inner wisdom, certainty and clarity. My 3-month Coaching Partner Program will support you by challenging you to walk your talk, not just talk your talk and show you how by having some humility, things start to flow. Sounds good? feel free to private message me so we can talk further and see if there is a ‘fit’ for us.
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Miracles literally occur when you give yourself permission to express fully what is going on for you. I have witnessed this so many times for my clients these past few weeks that I felt to share it here and encourage you, my friends and family around the globe to remember this.
No it doesn’t always make sense to your head that simply by ‘getting it all out’ (* in a personally responsible way) will change anything in your circumstances but it does, each and every time.
When working with my clients, I constantly encourage this behaviour. “How are you feeling?” – “What are you noticing inside your body right now?” and remind them that the disconnection from their body is what has them making choices that don’t feel congruent for them.
This gentle and constant reminder is vital for a person who wants to experience flow, notice synchronicities, feel ‘on- track’.
DO you feel ‘on-track’? Do you notice how things around you are there to support you? Do you feel like you are going with the flow of the river of your life or do you feel like you are paddling furiously upstream trying to get somewhere?
In my coaching program I work with you to get to the root of your Truth, clarify where there is confusion and support you to feel aligned and ‘yourself’ again.
So if you have been bottling things up, feeling out of flow or have been noticing that your choices haven’t been sitting well with you or giving you what you want, private message me to speak with me about my initial 3-month coaching partner program which will give you the support to ‘get back into your groove.’ I look forward to exploring if there is a fit for you and I to partner up.
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“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain
Are you playing safe? Life’s ok but a bit blah and unadventurous?
Are you ready to turn up on the ‘edge’?
As you expand your awareness, you stop avoiding discomfort. You will find that you won’t wait for challenge to come, you will look for your ‘edge’. You know that expansion only occurs at the edge of comfort, the edge of feeling safe. I call it the comfortably/uncomfortable edge!
This is where you can become very aware of the paradox we live. On one hand, when we follow our head and its ideas, we are comfort seeking missiles, always looking for the safe and easy way out with little to no struggle. On the other hand when we are present and aware of the feeling that pulls us from within, we are coming from a space beyond thought that is all about fearless expression and experience. Turning up alive, engaged and involved and seeing what happens!
When working with individuals, I support them in their own experience of what this fully expressed space is about and how valuable it is. A fully expressed liver of life doesn’t look for their life to be safe and smooth, in fact they would naturally be wary if it did. Instead they are actively involved and present to the opportunities that surround them, knowing that it is better to have jumped in and tried something and ‘failed’ than to stay in the comfort zone.
I would love to hear from you and share how I can partner with you to support you to find your edge and stay there. Remember, there is no ‘right’ time to do anything, there is right here and now and it only takes one step at a time. I look forward to hearing from you.
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Are you noticing there’s a lot of FEISTY energy around at the moment? You know, that frustrated, agitated, slightly moody but not pissed off, worked-up but not downright angry stuff. I’ve noticed it around and also in the clients I support.
What I notice then is the judgment that comes up about being feisty!
“I’m spiritual and am not meant to be feeling anything other than peace!”
or “I shouldn’t be getting annoyed here but… (inferring that they are above that, or should be beyond it by now!)”
What’s so is that ‘feisty’ in itself isn’t a bad thing, or to be squashed or avoided. In fact I see it as absolutely necessary as you move towards birthing a new expression of yourself into the world. Whether that is a new art piece, a new business idea, a new way of being in the world. It’s about how you funnel your feisty that really counts. When you funnel your feisty, you are using that powerful creative energy and tension towards what you are being invited to bring out in the world.
This is a critical time to STOP and get present to what you are feeling. Notice what is happening around you…what is capturing your attention? what is inspiring you? where’s the animation in the room so to speak.
When you drop your judgment of the so called negative thoughts and emotions, you stop pushing it away and instead you practice self-reflection and ask what is this feistiness pointing towards in your life.
The very thing that is pushing our buttons and creating all this feistiness CONTAINS INSIGHT FOR YOU. It would be a shame to keep ignoring it or continue to relieve the tension. When you learn to harness that tension, that creative energy, powerful stuff happens.
If you are Mr or Mrs Feisty right now and would like to understand more about how to work with your feisty energy, then contact me to see how I can partner with you to bring focus and insight to what you are experiencing.
#FEISTYISGOOD #DONTRELIEVETHETENSION
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Are you prepared to go through the certain discomfort of the interim period between when you start to make a new choice to bringing about a new behaviour or experience in your life?
There will always be a period when things feel wrong or hard or clunky as you do something differently as your brain rewires to the new way of being.
A person choosing and practicing the conscious path will see how important this discomfort is and will stop avoiding it and will instead move towards it. DW
“Difficulties are meant to ROUSE not DISCOURAGE.
The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict” William Ellery Channing
While there is craziness happening on the inside, the world outside reflects that. You have the ability to respond to that internal craziness and therefore affect a shift in your external experience of life.
If you spend your valuable energy trying to sort the craziness only in the outside circumstances without giving any attention to the necessary inner work, you will forever be feeling disempowered and angry…. And that’s how the cycle continues.
