Have you ever stopped to think about this?
Have you noticed when there is someone in a group, your family, at the office, in your friendships, that starts to complain or gossip, that energy more often than not gets transferred onto another person in the group. Maybe even you! One moment you were feeling fine and happy and the next you suddenly feel emotional, caught up and are feeling uncomfortable.
Whenever you aren’t present, you will find that it is almost impossible not to get caught up in the drama and circumstances around you.
Elkhart Tolle refers to this as ‘the pain body’ and I liken it to being like a virus.
So how can you stop the tendency of getting drawn into other peoples stories and emotions? The answer is one of those simple yet not easy things. You build your emotional resilience by learning to bring your complete and undivided attention into the here and now.
You don’t ignore or resist hanging around with people in case they draw you in but rather you learn how to hold your own space when you are around them. This way you not only keep yourself engaged and involved but at the same time don’t fuel the drama and unconsciousness by getting sucked in!
DW x
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Humbleness along with gratitude and appreciation for all of what is happening (Yes! even the hard and stinky stuff!) are key pieces of the puzzle to living a happy and joy-filled life.
I often mention to my clients about the need to be humble when on a path of self discovery and awareness. Here’s a great quote from Mahatma Gandhi that relates to this:
“The seeker after Truth should be humbler than the dust. The world crushes dust under its feet, but the seeker after Truth should so humble himself that even dust could crush him. Only then, and not until then, will he have a glimpse of Truth.”
What I find is this can often be misconstrued by the head and equated to being or playing small. After all, it’s insulting for the intellect to think this way!
Another way of looking at the word humble is simply having a complete and utter willingness and openness to challenge and question everything we have been told is truth.
To be able to embrace the truth of who you are you have to be willing to shift your perspective or as I put it, your whole context or paradigm in order to be able to experience it.
For some, the pull inside to know who they are in Truth has come as a result of tragedy or near death experience of some sort. That isn’t my experience. For as long as I can remember I have been fascinated by human beings and the way we think and operate.My journey has been more like a dog on a scent , sometimes a feint whiff and other times and undeniable heady scent of knowing that things are not as they appear. The key questions that have plagued mankind for as long as we have existed filled my mind…
Who am I ?
Why am I here?
What is my purpose ?
Do they fill yours from time to time?
I agree with a great teacher of Truth, Robert Scheinfeld that in our current level of consciousness, the majority are not capable of knowing the Truth, collectively we are still working through so much unconsciousness and ego perception. But what we can do is share a context or a model which points toward the Truth and experience it enough through our bodies that we can benefit and get practical value from it in our daily lives.
This is what I am excited by and why I do what I do with CoreTruth coaching. I work with people who have an itch, an inkling or even a downright urge to follow the feeling inside that tells them that there is more to life than being on the hamster wheel. There’s more to life than the 2.4 kids and a mortgage and endless consumerism that’s designed to keep us numb and disconnected from what is true and what really brings us joy.
So it really comes down to that point, are you willing to change your perspective, your world view in order for you to be open (be humble) to knowing who you truly are. If you can feel that urge, the gritty feeling of discontent with how you are living your life as you enter a new year, then perhaps it’s time to put aside your doubts and fears and choose to be humble in the true sense of the word.
Is this speaking to you? Give me a call, I’d love to hear from you. 😄
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As we fast approach the beginning of a New Year, so many people start to talk about making resolutions that often end up putting your attention into the future … I’m going to invite you to do the opposite!
What if the whole thing about New Year’s resolutions was counter-productive and has been a tantalising trick of the mind?
- Are you over all the judgment and expectation that comes with New Year?
- Have you had enough of letting yourself down with failed promises?
- Do you find yourself overcommitting to things, people or work?
- Do you find yourself struggling to remember what is important to you and end up getting busy just to distract yourself?
- Are you someone who spends a lot of time stuck in your head and paralysed by analysis?!
- MOST IMPORTANTLY, have you ever stopped to ask yourself why you do all that?
I ask those of you who make resolutions each year on 1st January, what is your experience of what happens when you set these type of goals? Do you actually experience transformation and lasting shifts in your behaviour? Or do you find that after a few days, weeks or if you are really tenacious, a month or two, the old behaviour you have been trying to change, re-emerges or something equally as annoying pops up to replace it!
The problem with most resolutions is that they sit in the old paradigm of fixing and changing behaviours which you judge as being wrong or dysfunctional. So the focus goes on what is wrong and needs to go away rather than having your attention on what you love or what you are moving towards.
You see, we get what we predominantly focus on with our thoughts. Simply put, if our energy is on what we don’t want and what we don’t like, we get more of that. And wherever there is resistance, you get more resistance.
As you are constantly creating your experience in each moment, both consciously and more importantly, unconsciously it pays to wise up to what is going through your mind. Meditation is a perfect way of becoming more conscious and although for the beginner, it can be quite confronting to bear witness to what is going on in your head, over time you begin to see some fascinating patterns.
It is said that we have between 50-70,000 thoughts a day with only 5000 of them original and the rest being repetitive and mostly negative self-talk. Until we can turn to face those thoughts and feel the emotions that swim around with them, we will forever be caught in a cycle resistance and exhaustion from over-thinking.
Instead of this year making more resolutions and plans to fix what is ‘wrong’, how about you get present and take stock of what is happening right here and now and FEEL what is going on before adding a whole lot more into your life.
I’m an expert in supporting people to reach clarity where there is confusion. I encourage people to love and respect who they are by wising up to what is really going on for them so that they can make true and authentic choices in each moment and I support people to break addictive patterns of behaviour and focus their minds on what really brings them peace of mind and joy.
If that speaks to you , I am interested in talking with you and would be delighted to see if there’s a fit for us to partner up. I have 5 more places available for my 3-month partner program and looking for those 5 people to make the beginning of 2016 really count.
with love
David
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Click here for My first video-log! Still getting used to it so please excuse any weird angles or googley eyes!! lol I’m excited to be sharing something with you before the end of the year and feel that is more important than getting it perfect!!
Step off for a few minutes and remind yourself of the peace that lies within…
Happy Festive season to my gorgeous clients, family and Facebook community- I wonder if you can spend a few minutes, especially at this time of the year to slow down and log-off from your thinking and worrying and enjoy what the present moment gives you.
I welcome any of you who may be looking for some support around releasing the habit of overthinking and addiction to drama so you can focus your attention on what really counts for 2016. Yes that’s right! We are alllll addicted in some way to the drama and entertainment which keeps us from being present and powerful.
I’m interested in working with those of you who no longer have the time and energy to keep on drifting and hoping and wishing that life will get better but who are ready to get into the driving seat of their lives and make a difference from within. I’m not talking about focussing on fixing and changing your circumstances, but rather remembering the authentic, real, ‘coretruth’ of who you are and bringing it out in the world. I’m talking about you showing yourself through your own life experiences how capable and powerful you truly are and no longer being satisfied with mediocrity. You’d be surprised how shifting your context really opens the gateway to the things you have only ever imagined and how differently life shows up to you when you get out of your own way and show up to it.
2016 has a lot in store for those who choose to come onboard, least of all with CoreTruth clients going to a retreat in a stunning private villa in a secluded location in Bali, Indonesia in April. I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to have you come along too!
As we step into the germinational energy of a brand new year, how is it that I can assist you to gain the outcomes that you have chosen for yourself?
I’d like you to take seriously the invitation I am about to offer and feel the response within, before the thinking and limitation comes in.
In January I will be increasing the cost of my coaching partner programs. It’s clear that the end results that my clients have chosen and received from their commitment to themselves, in terms of relationships,business growth,financial shifts but most of all, peace of mind are undeniable.
To support those of you who have been feeling the urge to join me but haven’t for whatever reason come on board in 2015 and especially if money has been one of the reasons your head has come up with, now is the time. I will maintain this years pricing for anyone who is willing to make a deposit to secure a spot by 31st DECEMBER but you will have the freedom to press the start button anytime from 4th January until the 29th February 2016. Anyone who contacts me after 1st of January 2016 will be very welcome but will be at the new 2016 rate.
I look forward to sharing another insightful, expansive and satisfying New Year with you all and wish you all the experience of knowing the grounded and real experience of who you are and what you are truly capable of. Let’s make this year count!
With much love
David xxx
*This offer applies to old and new clients and for existing clients who would like to ‘top up’ their partner program.
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How else will you be able to show yourself that you are not your body or your circumstances and that you are unlimited apart from going through experiences that push you out of your comfort zone?
DW x
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I love this piece from Esther Hicks and Abraham. It’s a large part of what I work on with my clients and that is remembering not to judge the emotions as they move through you but to use them to keep moving towards the next best feeling space within.
“Joseph Campbell said “Follow your bliss” …we think those are the best words that have ever been offered but sometimes you cannot get a whiff of bliss.
If you are in despair and something bad has happened, if you’ve witnessed something and someone is saying ‘you should follow your bliss’, even though Source is calling you , you can’t hear it because the vibration of where you are and the vibration of Source is different enough you can’t hear it. Not that it isn’t calling but you can’t hear it.
So, do you know what the call of Source sounds like? people say it must be like hearts and angels, we say, it depends on where you are. If you are in appreciation, the call of Source feels like elation- if you are in despair, if you are feeling powerless, then the call of Source feels like rage. If you are in rage or anger the call of Source then feels like frustration, in other words a slight improvement from where you are is what the call of Source always sounds like.
If you’ve ever been depressed, you know how much better you feel when you get mad, your friends don’t want you to be mad , they liked you better when you were depressed but you’ve got to admit, at least you are breathing now, you do feel better. So, everything about coming into alignment with who you are is about closing that gap between whatever you’re focussed upon in your NOW experience and who you really are.”
