Occupy your heart. This one is for the constant searchers out there! Aren’t you tired of it all? Aren’t you tired of going to yet another expert or program hoping to find the magic panacea that solves your issues or your problems. Doesn’t there come a time where you realise that nobody ‘out there’ can transform your experience, only you.
Don’t let your clever ol’ head misconstrue what I’m suggesting here as there is a bit of a paradox. You don’t have to do this Inner work alone. Yes certainly people can offer pointers or guidelines, after all, this is what I do and we are not here to live like an island. We have all had experiences of learning and opening up through witnessing someone else’s story.
It’s got a lot to do with how you turn up in your life and also about your expectations. So if you turn up believing that you are broken or don’t have the capacity and keep making your problems about someone or something outside of you, you are missing the point. Indeed if it is your expectation that somebody has got the answer for you, then don’t be surprised if after a while you feel disappointed and over it and feel like you are always chasing an illusive utopia . The only way that will give you true transformation is when you experience something through your own body, IN your own body. You can only get INsight from withIN.
As an INtuitive coach, I will always put the power back IN you and guide you towards your own INtuitive feel. It is my job to hold a space of non-judgment so that you can feel at ease around expressing whatever it is that you have going on IN all your vulnerability and show you through experience that the light withIN always follows the darkness.
So are you now ready to do the INner work. To become intimately IN touch with your own wisdom and live INpurpose!!! Ok so maybe that’s normally ‘ON purpose’ but it still sounds good doesn’t it! 😉😀
“I believe that the more time we spend choosing to run the deep INNER-peace circuitry of our right hemispheres, the more peace we will project INto the world, and the more peaceful our planet will be.” Jill Bolte-Taylor
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Today I am writing to a more specific person out there. And for me to be able to do this, I am going to share with you in a way that may feel quite different to those of you who read my blog posts regularly.
Today I’m reaching out to those of you who are the outliers, the misfits, the ones who may even feel like a bit of a freak! I’m reaching out to those who feel misunderstood and perhaps alienated and separate and deeply alone. The ones who have faced or are facing a space of seeming darkness and feel at a loss.
I know your pain- I know what it feels like to be in this space which may come as a surprise to many of you who have only seen me AFTER all my years of transformation work and hours of my own coaching and mentoring with numerous people around Australia and overseas.
When I was in my early 20’s I was fortunate enough to be referred to a naturopath/dietician to whom I went for some guidance and support around depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. I say fortunate because I was told that had I gone down the conventional route of western medicine, I would’ve been diagnosed as manic depressive and put on medication. But something inside me wasn’t ready for that to be my fate and by going to the naturopath, I embarked on an intensive re-programming of my body chemistry and head-space which led to me clearing the ‘dark cloud of misery’ that used to descend on me almost like clockwork each 4-6 weeks for anything from 1 to 5 days at a time.
Was it an easy experience, HELL NO! I had been ‘managing’ this monthly occurrence since my teens, learning that if I could just hold out for one more day, that it would pass, but managing isn’t transforming anything and it was exhausting. There had to be another way and that’s where my journey began.
One vital thing I learned back then was that our greatest gold, our innate gift and power lies in our biggest challenges. I was drawn to do the work that was required to see how I had ‘called in’ depression and anxiety for very good reason and not that I was broken and flawed as both myself and most of the general population viewed it.
It was this deep internal enquiry, provoked by that free-thinking naturopath that ultimately led me to do what I do today with my clients. In simple terms, how on earth was I to be able to support others with their own mental challenges unless I had experienced this in my own body. It wasn’t enough for me to have learned it in a text book and regurgitate facts and figures alone.
So what I know to be true is that no matter what it is you are going through right now, there is another way of viewing that challenge. Another way in which you can free yourself from the fearful perception of ‘not good enough’ and the unworthiness you feel with all the shameful, guilty and sad emotions that bind you.
And the really tough stuff you experience contains the key to your own gold within and informs what you are here to offer to the world.
I am here to support people in uncovering this (core!)truth, I am here to partner with you to bring that into fruition, to own your inner freak and embrace being the outlier or misfit! It’s always been in there, just hidden amongst the clutter! What better time than right here and now, where we can leverage the energy of the end of this year, to enable you to begin the new year on the path towards living your own version of a fully expressed life. I extend an invitation to those who resonate with these words and who can no longer keep managing their emotions to call me. I look forward to hearing from you.
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One of the magic stages in creating the life that you truly love, which is fully expressed and alive, is the surfing the wave of MOMENTUM. Some call this FLOW. But what I have noticed is that it is a stage in the process where people get fooled the most by their head.
As Robert Fritz wrote about in his book, The Path of Least Resistance, where he shares the steps necessary to consciously create your life through the harnessing of tension, there are 3 key stages to the creative process:
GERMINATION- conception, the seed of an idea or inspiration which comes with lots of energy of excitement and enthusiasm.
ASSIMILIATION- embodying the vision of the idea which takes effort and diligence. The initial excitement of germination energy has dissipated and its about allowing the momentum to build with taking action and have it begin moving you towards what you have seen in your vision.
COMPLETION-acknowledgent and receiving the fullness of your vision manifest in your life.
When working with my clients, the place where they are most likely tempted to drop off is in the assimilation stage. They start becoming lazy with their practice or complacent with the results which start to occur and lose the feeling inside of appreciation and gratitude. They perhaps have managed to get some relief from their current circumstances, usually emotional relief or financial or relationship improvements have occurred and they doubt whether they need to continue.
All we have to do to look at where we have each fallen prey to this stage is to look at all the half finished projects we have around us. Half-written masterpieces, unfinished paintings, awesome business plans sitting in the drawer, all laying redundant. The excuses of ‘not enough time, not enough money, not enough ‘xxx’ (fill in the blank!), are the excuses we have rationalised that make us feel better but deep down just another opportunity to feel dissatisfied with ourselves.
Learning to harness the tension at this key stage of assimilation is vital to living a fully expressed life. Learning not to listen to the chatter monkey inside and continuing to take the one step that is always in front of us and not getting bogged down by the overwhelm of change and potentiality of the vision is equally vital.
If you can dig really deep at this stage and stay firmly planted in the here and now of your life and STAY PLUGGED IN, CONNECTED with what has been working for you, you stand the best chance of reaching the completion stage. The stage which still has its own hurdles to overcome but at least you have shown yourself that you have the capacity to bring what you love into reality.
So,
…for those of you who are wondering why you keep dropping the ball of your vision and are confused about why,
…for those who keep telling themselves that there must be an easier way,
…for those who who feel like an island in their lives doing the hard yards alone
give me a call or private message me. I am looking for 4 seriously committed people to join my initial 3-month Coaching Partner Program who would love to surf the wave of momentum and build a solid foundation for 2016 and beyond. Sessions are held on Skype or FaceTime for those clients who are from overseas. I look forward to speaking with you.
#livefullyexpressed #momentum #dontgetfooled #coretruths
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Do you hold back on giving yourself things or experiences you love and which make you feel good? Do you know, not just intellectually know that you are unlimited and abundant by nature?
We often don’t realise that we are treating ourselves as paupers rather than acknowledging the truth that we are THE single most important person in our world. Though it’s a common religious belief to put others needs and desires first, this action can only truly and unconditionally be done by coming from a place of full and undeniable value of YOURSELF first. Take care of your inner experience of happiness and peace before looking to give it elsewhere.
How else are we going to give ourselves the real-life, embodied experience of our abundant nature, unless we are willing to keep the lines of energy open within ourselves. What this in practical terms means is to open your heart and mind and move towards a deep and unshakeable place of TRUST WITHIN. To do this, we have to take ourselves to the uncomfortable edge, the place that is challenging and brings up fearfulness. The exact opposite of what our head and its chatter monkey tells us. When you do this consciously, with support and guidance, you build your resilience and confidence in living freely in the moment. You show yourself through real-life experience, that you have got your own back.
I call this ‘living on the comfortably-uncomfortable edge’. And this edge takes some practice and diligence. It takes a willingness to follow your intuition, your feeling inside that guides you without rational back-upable proof! It takes regular and consistent leaps into the unknown and taking actions that your safety mechanisms won’t like or agree with.
So if your uncomfortable edge is like most people, about money, then I challenge you to take yourself to the edge. The thing you have loved which you have kept locked up in your head for a while, you know, the one whose price tag is beyond your current comfort zone, make the choice to buy it. Yes of course you will have many voices of judgment come up, ‘I’m being reckless!’, ‘what if I get unexpected bills!” , or my particular favourite, “how do I know that it’s something that I truly want and that I’m not going to regret it?!”
Without taking a risk, you will never give yourself the the circumstances VITAL to show yourself your abilities and certainty within. You will continue to sell yourself short.
Expect discomfort, instead of being surprised by it.
I challenge you to remind yourself of a time in your life where you stretched yourself, where you just didn’t know if you could make it through something, that you felt at breaking point and had sleepless nights. Then notice how you felt AFTER that experience, how you felt more expanded, more alive, more certain. What if you were able to remain focussed on that expanded and alive space, the space where you felt empowered and trusting?
- Perhaps you have been sitting back and waiting for the ‘right time’…a sneaky way of not trusting.
- Perhaps you are always playing it safe, worrying about tomorrow instead of jumping in today…not trusting.
- Perhaps you have been ‘saving for a rainy day’ or insuring or backing-up for the future…not-trusting.
- Perhaps you are waiting for your head to agree with your heart, missing out on living in the moment…not trusting!
- Perhaps you’re riddled with self-doubt, lack of confidence, feeling scared or paralysed into inaction…again not trusting!!
All of these things and more besides can be moved through. They don’t need to keep you a prisoner in your own life. It’s time to show yourself that you are more than the limited thoughts and ideas you have in your head. It’s time that you showed yourself what it is like to live a fully expressed life that you love.
I am enrolling now for my 3-month Coaching Partner Program and am looking for 4 new people to join me. In this program you will be able to show yourself how and why you have limited yourself and your choices. What you have played small about and why you feel blocked and unsure. You will also learn how to break through this confusion and old habits. You will show yourself what happens when you really have a safe space to explore, free of judgement and stop playing small. 12 short weeks to show yourself the possibilities and make some real shifts in your life.
Do you feel the tingle?! Making a commitment to work with me is the first big step in showing yourself that you deserve to live a fully expressed life. Drop me a line and I’ll be happy to explore working with you to get what it is you would love to have for yourself.
#coretruths #liveafullyexpressedlife #sellyourselfshortnomore
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You know, those small seemingly easy-to-overlook decisions where you take the safe option, the ‘anything for a quiet life” choice, the ‘better the devil you know’ way of life which leads down the same old path of feeling uninspired and mediocre. Sometimes, if you are really paying attention, you will notice that the choices you are making don’t even feel like yours, it’s like you are playing out someone else’s life.
Every time you compromise and hold back out of fear….
Every time you have not made a choice to follow what you love for fear of consequences? Not enough time, not enough money, and then all of a sudden its another year of your life thats gone by…
Every time you say you are going to do something new or challenging but then pull back?…
Here’s the deal… and it sounds funny but I have the latest lyrics from Madonna ringing in my ears:
“It might sound like I’m an unapologetic bitch but sometimes you know I gotta call it like it is!!!” …
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS THE RIGHT TIME TO TAKE A LEAP. Stop waiting for it! Your logical rational mind isn’t wired for the unknown,the new, the inspired. In fact it’s fair to say that it has a great aversion to it most of the time!
Of late I have noticed a lot of people absolutely feeling a Yes! to do something or a feeling to go somewhere or take action on something but then a WHOLE lot of backtracking bullshit stories appear, a whole load of holding off until ‘the right time’ or waiting for the fear to subside, or waiting for their head to to agree with their feeling.
Again I wish to declare: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS THE RIGHT TIME TO TAKE A LEAP!
The right time is there and then-the moment that the feeling occurs to you IS the best time. We have got so used to trying to get our head to agree to what our heart is telling us and that can take forever- so then you end up living a lot of NEVER.
Stop living your life waiting! Its only ever going to be your head trying to catch up with the infinite wisdom and knowing that your feeling has available to it. Life is only ever lived in the present moment, but just how often are you inhabiting the moment?
And that’s where I can support you. When I work with my clients, I support them to live a fully expressed life through clearing the clutter they have allowed to build up in their heads so that they USE the wisdom and certainty thats already within them. They stop apologising for what they know to be true, stop playing small and limiting their lives by telling themselves bullshit stories that they have ended up believing out of habit. I work with people who mean business with themselves and who are tired of feeling limited and shying away from what they love. It’s time to bring the fullness of who you are into play and show up with all of your might.
Im currently looking for 4 more people who resonate with what I have shared, who’ve had enough of stalling and putting off putting themselves first and daring to live an authentic and inspired life. These people are no longer willing to agree with mediocrity and compromise and want to move through their ideas of limitation. They’ve had enough of letting themselves off the hook and criticising and judging themselves. And they are over the ways in which they sabotage themselves whenever they go for what they love.
Are you one of the 4? If you feel a pull within, I’m interested in speaking with you to determine if we are the right fit and that I can support you to get what it is you need.
#liveafullyexpressedlife #coretruths #mediocritysucks #thereisnoRIGHTtime
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Definition: ‘the magical power or process of transmuting a common substance, usually of little value, into a substance of great value.’ or more commonly described as the process of turning lead into gold.
In session with one of my clients this afternoon, we sat together in a space of peace and connection. Let me be real here and say that this isn’t always the case and as anyone who has decided to live a fully expressed life would know, there’s often a lot of ‘cleaning’ to be done to reach that space. This beautiful man showed up like he had never done before. He began, as usual by sharing how he was feeling and what had been happening for him since we last were together.
Something was different about him this time. The way he walked in, the shininess in his eyes and the clarity of his skin was luminescent. He literally looked like he could barely stay inside the confines of his body. Though he had had many shifts in his awareness and lightness about him before, today was deeper and spellbinding to observe.
He went on to express how much had dropped into place for him since last week. I have been supporting my clients through a 30-day cleanse with naturopath, Camila Hynes from Nurturing Health and he had been out to the fabulous Cooks Co-op at Sackville and shared a delicious lunch around the table with all my other clients. He shared that he had gained so much from hearing other people sharing and an enormous layer of self-judgment had melted away for him. A part of him which he had been holding onto for dear life around fearful comparison and judgment had finally come to rest.
You could say that it was a combination of eating clean food and exercising, but in his case, he always did eat pretty clean anyway. And he already had a regular and committed exercise routine before we started working together. But this was more than the usual level of aliveness and freedom I had witnessed in him before.
He continued to say that he had been following through on some of the work we had been doing, taking action on things we had uncovered in his sessions and amongst them had some necessary courageous conversations. He, like a lot of people had lived the majority of his life withholding and compromising the very essence of who he is from the world. But not any longer. He had finally realised that he could no longer keep putting himself and his truth second. Not to his family, not to his staff, not to partners or his friends. Prior to this, he was as wrapped up and in fear as anyone I have known and had been hiding his authenticity and truth all his adult life. This man is in his mid-late forties and had hidden his sexuality, had played small and insignificant, had exhausted himself through overcommitting, people pleasing and rescuing until finally the dam began to crack and instead of trying to control it,(though he tried very hard to!) he went through it. And this was the result. Peaceful, expansive, loving.
Would he be where he is, alive and vibrant as I witnessed him today had he backed out when the going got tough, or when he was afraid or confused ( which he was crippled by so many times throughout our process together) about the next steps? No, instead he committed to himself in our sessions without guarantees and for him, backing out and giving up was not an option.
I was able to show him ( or rather he showed himself!) where all the previous challenges, pain, struggle and heartache had led him to this very breakthrough and to how he was feeling right now. Not in an evangelical, WOW Ive been healed! kind of way, but in a still, powerful, embodied way where he acknowledged himself and also where he still has work to do and limitation to move through. Truly beautiful.
This is the kind of magic that I believe I witnessed the power of today.
I’m humbled and blessed to say that I bear witness to this process of alchemy on a daily basis with my clients. But today in particular I am moved to share this with you in case you have temporarily lost sight of the possibility and magic within yourself. May the metaphor of alchemy, of turning lead into gold be a reminder that no matter how stuck, damaged, fearful, small, frustrated, angry, resistant you have believed yourself to be, it can be moved through. And, most of all, it doesn’t have to take forever. xxx
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