What do you feel and what does it look like when you think of living a Fully Expressed life?
What would it take for you to Be Fully Expressed?
Over the past 14 years, I have focused my attention on what that means to me and have dedicated my life to the quest of knowing who I truly am underneath all the roles and responsibilities I have in my life. And through my interaction with fellow truth seekers and my own clients who I support on their journey of remembering who they are, the common theme I see is that we are all looking to live a fully expressed life.
#BeAlive #BeEngaged #BePresent #BeLove #CoreTruths
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Definition: ‘the magical power or process of transmuting a common substance, usually of little value, into a substance of great value.’ or more commonly described as the process of turning lead into gold.
In session with one of my clients this afternoon, we sat together in a space of peace and connection. Let me be real here and say that this isn’t always the case and as anyone who has decided to live a fully expressed life would know, there’s often a lot of ‘cleaning’ to be done to reach that space. This beautiful man showed up like he had never done before. He began, as usual by sharing how he was feeling and what had been happening for him since we last were together.
Something was different about him this time. The way he walked in, the shininess in his eyes and the clarity of his skin was luminescent. He literally looked like he could barely stay inside the confines of his body. Though he had had many shifts in his awareness and lightness about him before, today was deeper and spellbinding to observe.
He went on to express how much had dropped into place for him since last week. I have been supporting my clients through a 30-day cleanse with naturopath, Camila Hynes from Nurturing Health and he had been out to the fabulous Cooks Co-op at Sackville and shared a delicious lunch around the table with all my other clients. He shared that he had gained so much from hearing other people sharing and an enormous layer of self-judgment had melted away for him. A part of him which he had been holding onto for dear life around fearful comparison and judgment had finally come to rest.
You could say that it was a combination of eating clean food and exercising, but in his case, he always did eat pretty clean anyway. And he already had a regular and committed exercise routine before we started working together. But this was more than the usual level of aliveness and freedom I had witnessed in him before.
He continued to say that he had been following through on some of the work we had been doing, taking action on things we had uncovered in his sessions and amongst them had some necessary courageous conversations. He, like a lot of people had lived the majority of his life withholding and compromising the very essence of who he is from the world. But not any longer. He had finally realised that he could no longer keep putting himself and his truth second. Not to his family, not to his staff, not to partners or his friends. Prior to this, he was as wrapped up and in fear as anyone I have known and had been hiding his authenticity and truth all his adult life. This man is in his mid-late forties and had hidden his sexuality, had played small and insignificant, had exhausted himself through overcommitting, people pleasing and rescuing until finally the dam began to crack and instead of trying to control it,(though he tried very hard to!) he went through it. And this was the result. Peaceful, expansive, loving.
Would he be where he is, alive and vibrant as I witnessed him today had he backed out when the going got tough, or when he was afraid or confused ( which he was crippled by so many times throughout our process together) about the next steps? No, instead he committed to himself in our sessions without guarantees and for him, backing out and giving up was not an option.
I was able to show him ( or rather he showed himself!) where all the previous challenges, pain, struggle and heartache had led him to this very breakthrough and to how he was feeling right now. Not in an evangelical, WOW Ive been healed! kind of way, but in a still, powerful, embodied way where he acknowledged himself and also where he still has work to do and limitation to move through. Truly beautiful.
This is the kind of magic that I believe I witnessed the power of today.
I’m humbled and blessed to say that I bear witness to this process of alchemy on a daily basis with my clients. But today in particular I am moved to share this with you in case you have temporarily lost sight of the possibility and magic within yourself. May the metaphor of alchemy, of turning lead into gold be a reminder that no matter how stuck, damaged, fearful, small, frustrated, angry, resistant you have believed yourself to be, it can be moved through. And, most of all, it doesn’t have to take forever. xxx
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What if for just one day ( to start with!) we each chose to focus on PEACE. Just imagine it! The whole globe fuelling their minds, viewing their world and flavouring their choices with PEACE! After all, its pretty common knowledge nowadays that we get more of what we most focus on.
SO what is it you most focus on?
I have had a practice and one which I share with my clients which is to spend some time just after waking and before I get out of bed, focus on being present to what is occurring in my body.
‘Being present to’ doesn’t mean judge or analyse what is going on in your body- but simply becoming aware, observing what is going on with neutral perspective. Thats why its a practice, you need to practice!! It’s an old habit to allow our head to look for what’s wrong, what’s not going well, what needs fixing.
But gradually, with growing patience and discipline you can reach that neutral view and then your more conscious choice can be made. Choose to focus on something you love, something that brings you a sense of peace, joy, connectedness, aliveness, contentedness… and get reeeaaaaallllyy good at being able to shift your attention back to these no matter what your head distracting you with.
DW x
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We all know when we have it, its a feeling in our body but then the monkey mind, the rational logic comes in and has to evaluate and weigh up risk before we take action.
How many times have you seen a beautiful piece of clothing or a new car or a house and you have instantly felt a YES! In that very moment, you are living that reality and enjoying that thing that has your attention. Your powerful imagination can see yourself in that scene as clear as day and you feel expanded and alive as if it is already yours.
But then almost instantly for most, your thoughts or belief of whether you are able to have that experience come in. Your head evaluates and judges based upon current reality and circumstances if you are worthy or capable of attaining that. It effectively comes right on in and squeezes all of that inspired and expanded energy(which is who you are!) back into the limitations of your little body. It uses past knowledge and compares,evaluates and critiques based upon what you already know as to whether this new experience you have asked for is possible.
Truth is, of course it is possible! You are infinite energy which moves in through and around everything and everyone! But it all comes down to the degree that you give your power to those thoughts and emotions which flood your body. Granted, It’s a huge challenge not to and some things are much more easy to reclaim your attention away from than others but nonetheless, this is what must occur in order to KNOW yourself as a truly unlimited being in a human form.
When working with my clients and from my own journey, this is one of the most challenging things for us. We are scared of expressing ourselves, more especially because of the emotions that we fear will come with that. The actuality of saying the words is often the hardest initial hurdle but in hindsight, the easiest part. The true challenge to our humanness (ego) is in experiencing the emotions we think will happen after speaking up. Its the perception of vulnerability, failure,being wrong, shame, guilt, anxiety, rejection and finally abandonment. Also what we then think we will need to do or act like to follow through after speaking up. This is why you would have heard me speaking about the importance of emotional resilience. Again note- RESILIENCE not RESISTANCE. And your willingness to keep building your resilience time and time again through experience, expression and feeling.
My goodness we are all such drama queens when we are in our heads aren’t we! lol
But if you are tired of continuing to ignore your feelings of Yes! or are in some way convinced that you don’t know what your own yes! is, then put up your hand, I am happy to support you to get clarity and to build your awareness of your own inherent truth within- but even more importantly guide you in taking action on that truth. Being spiritually lazy, or in other words, having awareness but then not taking action from that new awareness is such a bullshit place to be in, believe me, I’ve learned that one and it only leads to cynicism and doubt!
I look forward to hearing from you.
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I became aware of a heaviness within – a slowing up – upon hearing the news that came from our government yesterday that blocked the free vote on marriage equality. I recognized it as the feeling I get whenever I become conscious of a choice made from fear and fuelled with the dynamics of power and control and the resulting feeling of powerlessness.
Ultimately I am aware also that this too must be seen as an opportunity to remind myself, those around me and whom I work with, that there is a bigger picture playing itself out and not to get lost in the emotions of disappointment and anger towards Tony Abbott and his allies. We are part of a flawed system and as such it makes no sense to give it so much energy. What appears to be happening is always what happens when ego goes into battle with ego- it’s why wars happen and why so many of the choices that our current government are making, seem crazy and downright dangerous. Ego always wants to be right and so there’s never a winner.
It’s a tough call to make here, but essential if we are to rise in our consciousness and not fall prey to adding to this war. At times like this we must dig deep and do the work that’s required to find the space of love within. To realize that to hate and blame and judge Tony Abbott will only increase the stalemate situations we find ourselves in. To see beyond the external and personal wrapping he comes in and observe instead the role he is playing for us all. To stop looking for him and his supporters to change and to stop acting from fear and instead ruthlessly do that in each of our own lives and in our own ways. Tony Abbott (and others in our recent history such as George Bush, Francisco Franco and Benito Mussolini) and the way he is governing is a reflection of what we collectively are UNconsciously choosing.
If we were to each stop and ask ourselves some of the harder questions from a place of personal responsibility;
– For what purpose am I being served by having a leader in power who is behaving this way ?…Is it because I don’t believe I have the power myself and therefore must “outsource” it to others?
-How is it I am contributing to what is happening, even if I didn’t personally vote for the coalition government?…am I not speaking up about what is true for me?
and most importantly, if I can take my attention away from playing the blame game with the government, where can I focus my attention that will shift this current experience?
There is another theme I notice with these people in power, the time where they appear to be at their most powerful is simultaneously the time where they are most disapproved of publicly. In their outrageous display of censorship and misuse of power, unwittingly the lose their true power by ignoring the opportunity to dialogue, conciliate and negotiate and truly represent the collective. What is that all about?
Perhaps the emotions that are stirred up by people who push our buttons in this way are there as fuel. Fuel to step up and out of complacency. By them acting exactly the way they do, in fact creates an opening, a calling if you like for the new leader of love to stand out. In fact we can see it already in some of the reportage today, messages of love and support from people who are also in positions of power and influence politically. Taking action from love is imperative but also it’s critical to remember that everything which is occurring and has occurred up until now is contributing to the impending tipping point in our global political structure….and THAT’S the exciting part!
The passage from fear to love can feel incredibly arduous and long and often filled with seeming potholes and disappointments but along that pathway we expand and learn so much about ourselves and each other. But getting caught up in the story and allowing it to decide how you feel is not a road to peace of mind. When the stuff going on around you is crazy and desperately trying to rob you of your happiness, its a time to go to work! Relentless practice to focus your attention and bring yourself back into the here and now of your life, being present to what is in the moment and following the inspiration there because it’s that inspiration that gets lost when the thoughts get loud. It’s up to you to remember to choose how you are feeling and find that unshakeable place amongst the noise.
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