“Letting go” whether that is of a feeling, a situation, a person, money, takes primarily the choice to do so, helped by the knowledge that by “letting go”, you are not losing it but rather letting go of the tight hold and attachment you have on it to allow what is true to emerge.
Use that moment just before you get out of bed each morning to check in with how you are feeling- be present in your body- lets ITS intelligence tell you what you want to set as your intention for the day. TRUST that as you declare it to the universe (your higher sense of self), it is already happening and working in ways that your mind will not comprehend.
You will never reach the place where you will not need to be diligent about your choice of thought. Because you live in a world that is determined to show you every pocket of despair. So you must diligently choose. But it gets easier and easier and easier to do so.
Right now, it may feel to you like those moments of Connection are the rare ones. There will be a time when those moments of Connection will feel so normal that it will shock you when you get into a place of disconnection.