Conscious relationships – Imagine what it would be like to be in a relationship with a foundation of unconditional love. Where each person takes responsibility for the whole of the relationship and how they experience it. Where neither look to each other to complete themselves but each stand in their own clear and powerful expression of themselves and simply choose to love and connect with the other. Where each chooses to support the other to be the greatest version of themselves they can be beyond any conventional idea of commitment and social ideal.
Our relationships are such an enormous part of our lives. They are the perfect ground for our highest moments of joy and bliss and also for the complete opposite. They can inspire and energise us or have the capacity to distract, overwhelm and bring up all kinds of uncomfortable emotions.
Conscious relating sees each individual as whole and powerful without a need for one another. It holds a space which means that there is no room for blame and judgement of each partner for not having what is expected. It debunks the common idea of 50/50 relating which can only lead to expectation, disappointment and resentment. It creates a strong platform for honest and upfront communication which paves the way to heart connection and acceptance.
Whether you are a couple who are experiencing conflict and trouble, or simply reaching a place which feels limited or stagnant then consider CoreTruth sessions as a powerful foundational approach to relating which turns how we generally look at coupleship on its head. It is different to conventional ‘couples counselling’ as it doesn’t look to manage or apportion blame for what is happening in your relationship but rather supports each individual to get clear and consciously choose how they would like to be in relationship to the other and commit to that. It shows that for change to occur in the relationship, the change must be an individual choice and action.
There is a minimum commitment of 6 months for this program which provides the arena for true, foundation shifting love!
Each couples situation and requirements are different and there will be a mix of individual and joint sessions however usually it requires 1x 1hr session per individual, held weekly.
To be considered for the 6 month Conscious Relating program it is a requirement to have an initial meeting to connect and ensure that this is a suitable way forward for you. Please contact me to arrange an informal consultation which is complimentary with no obligation to commit.
“Despite our passion for romantic love, relationships are not the easiest way to find love and peace. They are, however, one of the most effective for finding our blocks.
Relationships naturally bring out into full view our desires, attachments and unconscious programs – our likes, dislikes, belief systems, judgments, compulsions, conformities, etc. Relationships challenge us because they take us deep into thoughts, feelings and experiences we have suppressed for a lifetime. That’s why they provide the very best arena for personal growth!
“Human relationships are the perfect tool for sanding away our rough edges and getting at the core of divinity within us.” -Eknath Easwaran
I work with people to re-calibrate their measure of success from what’s happening externally to what’s happening within.
I find that a lot of people who are drawn to work with me are by usual measurements in society, pretty successful. They have had successful lives in business and in relationships and life generally. However they still have a feeling of unease or dissatisfaction within no matter what they strive for and achieve on the outside.
For me, ROI is always going to be context driven. What I mean by that is that it very much depends on which view you come from. The owner/CEO of the business, the senior management team, the people at the coal face. Are you measuring financial return, skills return, inter-personal relationships, or happiness and satisfaction? I understand very well that in the world of business there is a great deal of pressure in looking for profit at any cost but I am witnessing a growing number of leaders in business moving away from relying only on fact and figures as a measure and instead are looking for how an outcome makes them and their team feel. I’m not talking about the light and fluffy feel good factor here but rather a deeper sense where you ‘just know’ that your time and money and focus has been well spent. Notice that I said not ‘relying only’ on facts and figures, which doesn’t mean ignoring them. A conscious and courageous leader learns how to walk the very thin line between both the rational AND intuitive so they don’t throw the baby out with the bath water.
It is more widely understood and proven now that everything we experience is energy and that the only thing that differentiates between the wooden desk we sit at and say, our skin or our thoughts is a difference in the frequency of that energy. The desk vibrates at a slower frequency which makes it appear and feel to us as solid, than our thoughts, which are not even visible to our eyes but we know they are there and it’s all energy just in different forms.
This can be a big challenge to accept through our logical and rational brain which is looking to satisfy the tangible five senses, I mean, how can I be made up of the same stuff as an inanimate object! But truth is, we are and we are all vibrating away omitting and receiving waves of energy constantly.
So, when you take this awareness into your day to day, it means that the ENERGY of you, which is made up of so many things including your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, values, morals, ideals etc constantly have an impact on you and the world around you. This is quite a mind-blowing realisation to have if you sit and really ponder on that. In fact, it can be quite overwhelming when you get present with the fact that most of us in the world are fully aware of those aspects of ourselves maybe 10% of the time which leaves a whole chunky 90% of the time we are unaware, in other words, asleep to our energy and what impact it is having!
This, for me is an exciting revelation because what it ignites in me is the drive to become ever more conscious of who I really am, and in Mandy’s model on pg 129 of the Inspiring Courageous Leaders book, understand what Reconnecting, Responsibility and Revelation means, not just a business context but in the biggest context for us all, our whole life.
Over the past decades of personal development in business, we have heard a lot of the buzz words around what ‘really works’. We have attended courses where the ‘solution’ is to uncover our beliefs and then when that is done all will be OK. Then it was if we uncovered our morals and values, THEN we would have a fully functioning and aware business/life.
All of this is valuable stuff and allows some profound shift and yet we have all experienced how the awareness seems to be short lived and we then await eagerly for the next ‘fix’ while our copious course notes and flip-charts and organisational dream vision boards gather dust.
What I feel is necessary is to get down to the level of energy awareness. To look at the context that underlies all of these layers, our fundamental operating context if you like. This affects the way in which we turn up across all areas of our life. In simple terms, that fundamental context is going to be one of fear where it’s about fixing, changing and improving or manipulating a better outcome OR it’s the transformational and powerful loving context of 100% personal responsibility.
If you sit for a moment and ponder on just how powerful that is, to take responsibility for who you are BEING and the energy of you. Phew! Pretty big stuff I know but when you get how profoundly you influence it all, all of the time just through you being you… WOW!
What we are looking for when we talk about ‘Reconnecting’ with a more meaningful and purpose-filled life is we are looking for that deep and satisfying, intimate connection to ourselves not the roles and tasks we perform. When we talk about ‘Responsibility’ and wanting people to take greater personal, community and organisational responsibility is our own invitation to do that fully ourselves FIRST and not wait for others to do it first before we will. And the ‘Revelations’ we are seeking in form of truth from the world around us is actually all about just how honest we can be with OURSELVES. This is what would create true business mastery, through self-mastery which as Mandy clearly states, takes authenticity, courage and a willingness to be open, real and vulnerable.
If I’m to encapsulate what I have written above into a couple of points, it would be these:
1.You are energy omitting and receiving frequencies all the time and this directly affects everything around you.
2. As a leader, by being conscious of the energy of you, or who you are BEING whist doing whatever you are doing, and courageously choosing what’s really true for you, spectacular and powerful results occur. This is what true ‘taking 100% personal responsibility’ means.
3. That you influence everything, all the time, simply by BEING you and not just because of the many amazing things you have learned to DO.
4. Wise up to the unconscious stuff in your life as a priority and you will naturally connect to the courageous and powerful leader inside of you and then watch out world!!
5. Self-leadership and mastery precedes true leadership and business mastery.
