You are always supported…
Train your mind to see the countless ways in which you are truly supported in your life rather than going along with the habitual focus on what isn’t working.
DW
Is this you?
When you are on the ‘hamster wheel’ of your life and simply doing what you are convinced by your thoughts that you have to do, you miss out on the very thing where you find true peace of mind and contentment.
When you are measuring your success through others eyes and by the collection of material and intellectual wealth around you, you are missing out on the very thing where you find true peace of mind and contentment.
When you believe the thoughts and emotions of limitation that run through your head continuously and miss what is happening around you in the here and now then you are missing out on the very thing where you find true peace of mind and contentment.
When you are convinced that you not good enough just as you are and that there is always somewhere else to be, that the grass is greener, then you are missing out on the very thing where you find true peace of mind and contentment.
When you are at the mercy of your job, your relationships, your financial situation and you live your life in compromise, guilt or regret then you are missing out on the very thing where you find true peace of mind and contentment.
CoreTruth Context Coaching is all about reminding you of the magnificence and perfection of who you already are, in your core, beneath the thoughts, emotions, judgments and ideas that keep telling you otherwise.
Over the past 10 years I have worked with hundreds of people who could feel that there must be more to life. People who were managing, controlling, forcing and avoiding things in their life. Most have been outwardly successful and abundant but all were experiencing a feeling of emptiness and lack of true and lasting joy in their lives.
I have worked with small business owners, CEO”S of large International companies, one of Australia’s top four banking corporations and also individuals who are unemployed, scared, confused, depressed and anxiety ridden across all ages, globally. I support those people who are tired of chasing the next solution outside of themselves and who are no longer willing to play by the usual rules and ways of living life.
I offer this predominantly through online or face-to-face sessions but also facilitate mindfulness and CoreTruth workshops which are ideal for business leadership off-sites and creative inspiration days.
I have no ‘five-steps’ to fix your life because I know that there is nothing about you that needs fixing.
I do however have plenty of ways to keep your mind occupied and distracted while we get on with the only thing that truly shifts your experience of life and that is the conscious awareness which comes from being 100% in the here and now with you in a space of no judgment and full compassion.
My private one-on-one sessions provide a space where I guarantee that you will, with a committed practice move back into integrity with yourself. I know that you have every answer to every problem within you already. It comes down to how much you will listen to what you know and feel to be true and follow it through. I support you to ‘clean out the rubbish’ so that you re-gain the clarity that’s always been there.
And, most importantly, I know and love who I am and what I do so I understand that it is possible for everyone to experience this, regardless of your starting point!
I am available online once-a-week on Skype or telephone if this speaks to you and feels like what you are looking for.
I will support you to see why you can’t afford not to begin this journey back to your CoreTruth rather than me wasting our time convincing you that you need it. Please simply send me a private message to David@CoreTruth.com.au to arrange a time to speak.
Much love to you x
Freedom is who you are…
Success is measured by peace of mind…
I work with people to re-calibrate their measure of success from what’s happening externally to what’s happening within.
I find that a lot of people who are drawn to work with me are by usual measurements in society, pretty successful. They have had successful lives in business and in relationships and life generally. However they still have a feeling of unease or dissatisfaction within no matter what they strive for and achieve on the outside.
The journey inward…
The journey inward is one that requires courage and vulnerability and certainly in the context of a leadership space, is an essential one. When you make the shift from viewing the world from a separate, ‘you and me as individuals’ perspective and see you and your team or communities as an integrated whole, you realise the absolute necessity of understanding yourself.
You see that by knowing what runs inside you and determines how you show up (or don’t!) in your life, you have the key to seeing why you experience what you do on the outside. “As within, so without” which in simple terms means whatever you are thinking about both consciously and subconsciously will be brought about into your reality.
The courageousness and inevitable feelings of vulnerability are key components of this journey and in fact if they are absent, I invite you to to look at whether what end result you are going for is really all that important to you. An authentic leader learns not to avoid vulnerability and actually learns to actively work on ‘the edge’ in a comfortably uncomfortable place, knowing that’s where ‘the juice’ lies, where evolution occurs rather than stagnation.
A popular talk by Ms Brene Brown at TED.com shows the power found in true vulnerabilty around understanding yourself and is well worth viewing.
Through my experience in choosing this style of leadership, I have found that my authentic style, unique to me, naturally emerges and shines through. The requirement to measure myself against others and compare my way of leading loses relevance. The urgent need to prove that I’m anything other than I am disappears and I turn up making decisions and choices that have clarity and certainty.
Leadership and Conflict….
When I was invited to share my feeling on this months newsletter topic of Leadership and Conflict, I was tempted to keep it very simple and to the point and that was to say the answer to staying in your leadership when experiencing conflict, is to be present. It is the simple answer and the only way in which you can be powerful in your leadership and stay true to yourself and at the same time support and guide others to evolve and grow in their own personal leadership.
Simple? yes, easy? not always! When you are in a position that requires you to ignite or encourage conflict, it requires you to be very clear and grounded in who you really are, which is OK, valuable, worthy of love and perfect just as you are, right here and now. WHAAAAAAT?! I hear you cry! Yes thats the truth of who you are , even though you may not feel like it all the time. And the kicker is, so is the other person who is part of the conflict! This is a vital distinction to get when becoming more and more courageous in your leadership. Who you truly are and what you DO are different. We have created a world where we mix those two up and make judgements about ourselves and others by linking our actions to the value and worth of us as human beings. In other words, we take things personally and that leads to confrontation, defending our position and attack or shrinking away from opportunity. (The good old fight or flight response.)
The breaking of the habit of taking things personally needs consistency and discipline around reminding ourselves of who we truly are and the only place where we can find that truth is in the present moment. Its where you will have whatever wisdom, words, actions necessary to respond constructively. This is what I call developing your emotional resilience through being present and in that we grow our capacity to manage and engage with conflict, in the moment wherever it arises.
When you are fully present and taking full personal responsibility for the way you are turning up and choosing to be, then you will be courageously leading the way for others in your company to do so. Try it out and see. If you are somehow waiting for someone around you to change, step up or be different in any way to how they are turning up, (and perhaps this is what is causing the conflict in the first place), YOUturn up differently FIRST. Be consistent and authentic in that space and watch what happens. Either the conflict will shift and no longer be an issue – the conflict details will be the same but you will have a whole new creative way of looking at it which will lead to it no longer causing you an issue – or the person with whom you have the conflict will simply leave.
So as an overview for simplicity:
- Be present – be in the here and now no matter what conflict is there.
- Don’t take things personally! STOP as soon as you realise you are because it will activate your fight or flight response which is fear-based and leads to more unnecessary conflict.
- Remember that who you are is OK, valuable, worthy of love and perfect just as you are, right here and now, regardless of how you may feel or think about that.
- Your behaviours, or what you do can be a bit dubious from time to time but its still not WHO YOU ARE. It’s important that we remember that we are only ever doing the best that we are able to do with the awareness that we have in that moment. And that goes for the the other or others too! Being present means you will be more aware and able to choose effectively.
- Take responsibility for who you are BEing and as Mahatma Gandhi was rumoured to have said, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”